Cheating, how would you know?

Even though we have some cheating threads out there already.....this one question has never really been answered. So let's comprise a list and see what we can come up with. I'll start 1. strange numbers in the cell phone.

Even though we have some cheating threads out there already.....this one question has never really been answered. So let's comprise a list and see what we can come up with. :scratch: Be more specific... ya mean what sort of clues would lead you to believe you were being cheated on? (and is this research on your part for tips on how to get away with boinking that girl you posted a picture of, without your wife finding out?)

1. strange numbers in the cell phone. :BAHA: Ok, this one cracks me up.... what -- do ya scroll through your S.O.'s phone when they're not around? If so, why? What ever happened to trust?

New moves in bed. :yikes:

:scratch: Be more specific... ya mean what sort of clues would lead you to believe you were being cheated on? (and is this research on your part for tips on how to get away with boinking that girl you posted a picture of, without your wife finding out?) :whistle: :lol:

:BAHA: Ok, this one cracks me up.... what -- do ya scroll through your S.O.'s phone when they're not around? If so, why? What ever happened to trust? gotta to to work, but (in your own words) what is trust anyway :tt:

Just by the way they act. That's what gave it away for me...and I was right.

Trust is bad, when cheating's involved. people will use it to cheat.

:lol: Alright, speaking from experience here..... When you come home, and your S.O. instantly minimizes the browser window, and then does everything possible to distract you from the computer so you don't see the name of the site in the toolbar. And then when you DO see it, claims he's just reading profiles, and that he accidentally was directed to the personals website while he was looking for p0rn. And then the big one.... when you go to log into your Yahoo mail on his laptop, and the Windows "Forms" function is active, and it automatically fills in a login name, which is similar to his normal email address, but just a little different and incorporates his middle name and his son's birthdate) but when asked about it, says, "Oh, I took my laptop to work, one of the guys at work must have logged into his mail." :skep:

:whistle: :lol: :bash: You jacka$$, I'm not HELPING you cheat on your wife!

gotta to to work, but (in your own words) what is trust anyway :tt: It's pretty simple... it's putting faith in the fact that you can count on that other person, no matter what, to do the right thing, regardless of the temptations presented to them, so support you, and stand by you, no matter what. To know they'll be true to you (faithful and loyal) even if it appears they could "get away with something" without you ever finding out. It's behaving in a manner that you would if they were at your side, even when they're not. There's so many more facets to it, as far as I'm concerned, but in short, that's the gist of it.

You just do...

You just do... basically.

a sure fire way to tell is if you walk into the bedroom and your wife is passed out nakid, there is a tarp on the bed, whip cream on the ceiling and another dude in shower.....ya, dead giveaway

a sure fire way to tell is if you walk into the bedroom and your wife is passed out nakid, there is a tarp on the bed, whip cream on the ceiling and another dude in shower.....ya, dead giveaway "I'm here for the gangbang"

a sure fire way to tell is if you walk into the bedroom and your wife is passed out nakid, there is a tarp on the bed, whip cream on the ceiling and another dude in shower.....ya, dead giveaway :lol: Ya mean she doesn't normally break out the tarp and whipped cream for you?

"I'm here for the gangbang" :lol: classic

:lol: Ya mean she doesn't normally break out the tarp and whipped cream for you? occasionally a rubber slicker, but not usually the tarp:tt:

occasionally a rubber slicker, but not usually the tarp:tt: :sorry: Sounds like she's pulling out all the stops for the mailman.

:sorry: Sounds like she's pulling out all the stops for the mailman. Apparently he had a large package that needed hand delivering:leaving: That's horrible:help:

:sorry: Sounds like she's pulling out all the stops for the mailman. http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g189/DLIT_2006/thkelso_burn.gif

Apparently he had a large package that needed hand delivering:leaving: That's horrible:help: :lol: But funny!

i have never had anyone cheat on me before...usually the bf's I had were so pathetically attached to my rear that them cheating never crossed my mind...( i seem to attract men who want a woman to tell them what to do...:scratch:) I never cheated either...i think i thought about it, so maybe mentally cheated...but never did anything about it...my pride prevents me... then I met my hubby, who loves me strangely enough :lol:...been married almost 6 years...havent met anyone who I would even actually be attracted to enough to ever leave...

...havent met anyone who I would even actually be attracted to enough to ever leave... But cheating isn't usually just about attraction. For men, it's typically opportunity. For women, it's because there's something missing at home. (Still, glad to hear you're 6 years and going strong! :cheers: Here's to many more!)

i have never had anyone cheat on me before...usually the bf's I had were so pathetically attached to my rear that them cheating never crossed my mind...( i seem to attract men who want a woman to tell them what to do...:scratch:) I never cheated either...i think i thought about it, so maybe mentally cheated...but never did anything about it...my pride prevents me... then I met my hubby, who loves me strangely enough :lol:...been married almost 6 years...havent met anyone who I would even actually be attracted to enough to ever leave... Sounds good in the RR household.

Yup :lol: well funnily enough, hubby was so different mentally and physically then the other guys I had dated...maybe thats why we stick so good!!! We only dated for *ahem* about 2 weeks so we are setting records every year!!! :dthumb:

We only dated for *ahem* about 2 weeks so we are setting records every year!!! :dthumb: When it's right, it's right!

Yup :lol: well funnily enough, hubby was so different mentally and physically then the other guys I had dated...maybe thats why we stick so good!!! We only dated for *ahem* about 2 weeks so we are setting records every year!!! :dthumb: 2 weeks before you got hitched? :scratch:

2 weeks before you got hitched? :scratch: yup, we had mutual friends but had never really talked at all, we even worked together and never spoke...he was really shy and apparently I was considered very wild...:scratch: :lol: (he actually ran one time when I said hi, i think he was hiding in the bathroom, he denies it to this day!!!) we would always go with a big group of friends to the park to play football and frisbee (all my friends were guys) and one day everyone else had to work and we were off so we met up, had a picnic and just hung out till the girl he was dating got there ( i was a serial dater back then)...he called me that night and we started seeing each other informally...this was all a week before we graduated high school (i got out early...but went to the ceremony)...he was already signed up to go to AF that fall but they called and wanted him early...so he left right after graduation...i visited him in texas when he got out of basic and while in tech school...he came back for a week that november, we got married and moved down to Florida!!! We even had a semi large wedding!! Nobody thought we would get married cuz I am not really the domestic kind...we are polar opposites in pretty much every way...but like nee said, when ya know, ya know!!!

yup, we had mutual friends but had never really talked at all, we even worked together and never spoke...he was really shy and apparently I was considered very wild...:scratch: :lol: (he actually ran one time when I said hi, i think he was hiding in the bathroom, he denies it to this day!!!) we would always go with a big group of friends to the park to play football and frisbee (all my friends were guys) and one day everyone else had to work and we were off so we met up, had a picnic and just hung out till the girl he was dating got there ( i was a serial dater back then)...he called me that night and we started seeing each other informally...this was all a week before we graduated high school (i got out early...but went to the ceremony)...he was already signed up to go to AF that fall but they called and wanted him early...so he left right after graduation...i visited him in texas when he got out of basic and while in tech school...he came back for a week that november, we got married and moved down to Florida!!! We even had a semi large wedding!! Nobody thought we would get married cuz I am not really the domestic kind...we are polar opposites in pretty much every way...but like nee said, when ya know, ya know!!! Dang. Please rag on him for me, for running from you.

Dang. Please rag on him for me, for running from you. :lol: will do!! Keep in mind tho, I didnt look like the me ya'll have seen back then!! (And in fairness to my poor hubby, i had a reputation for serious attitude/b*tchiness!!! I have mellowed with age! :wink: )

:lol: will do!! Keep in mind tho, I didnt look like the me ya'll have seen back then!! (And in fairness to my poor hubby, i had a reputation for serious attitude/b*tchiness!!! I have mellowed with age! :wink: ) personally, I just stalked my wife for a year before getting up the nerve to talk to her:nonod:

i have never had anyone cheat on me before...usually the bf's I had were so pathetically attached to my rear that them cheating never crossed my mind...( i seem to attract men who want a woman to tell them what to do...:scratch:) I never cheated either...i think i thought about it, so maybe mentally cheated...but never did anything about it...my pride prevents me... then I met my hubby, who loves me strangely enough :lol:...been married almost 6 years...havent met anyone who I would even actually be attracted to enough to ever leave... I gal that knows her assests:lol:

my husband and i dated for less than 6 mos. before getting engaged. we'll be married 9 yrs. this december. back on topic... when your devout tshirt and jeans guy puts on a nice button down shirt and cologne to go out for a beer with the boys...big red flag!

:lol: Ya mean she doesn't normally break out the tarp and whipped cream for you? Around my apartments it was usually the shower curtain and tub of Crisco...

Around my apartments it was usually the shower curtain and tub of Crisco... Ya know, there are places Crisco just doesn't belong... :yikes:

Strange numbers on the cell phone are always a red flag. Or in my case, familiar numbers showing up on the bill regularly on the wrong days. Other signs like acting strange when the other person is around. The other person quits hanging with your normal circle of friends. Strange phone calls from old friends asking if you are still with that person because the have been seen acting as a couple. Then finally just saying your going to work and really don't. Then catch them red handed.

Strange numbers on the cell phone are always a red flag. Ok, again I ask.... strange numbers on the cell phone. Do ya'll actually CHECK your S.O.'s phone logs and address books? :scratch:

Dang. Please rag on him for me, for running from you. Just so you know...I didn't run, I didn't even hear her. So i walked right by to the restroom.:cheers:

Steal a pair if your SO's used underware and send it in for DNA testing. There is a company thats does such a thing. If there is a DNA sample that does not match your or SO's, you pretty much caught them red handed.

Steal a pair if your SO's used underware and send it in for DNA testing. There is a company thats does such a thing. If there is a DNA sample that does not match your or SO's, you pretty much caught them red handed. :yikes: Ok, if it's to THAT point, then you pretty much know, and are just looking for concrete evidence in order to secure a good divorce settlement. :lol:

Ok, again I ask.... strange numbers on the cell phone. Do ya'll actually CHECK your S.O.'s phone logs and address books? :scratch: Not originally. Things just started adding up. They were very good at hiding the relationship. Only small slips gave it away. Then the research reviled the truth.

Not originally. Things just started adding up. They were very good at hiding the relationship. Only small slips gave it away. Then the research reviled the truth. Ahhhh, okay. I wasn't sure if you meant that was something you just routinely did, or if it was just part of the investigation process once you had a pretty good idea of what was up. :dthumb:

Ahhhh, okay. I wasn't sure if you meant that was something you just routinely did, or if it was just part of the investigation process once you had a pretty good idea of what was up. :dthumb: I was both secure and blind at first. I had noticed strange things like I listed but was only enlightened after receiving the phone call from an old friend that only knew my X through me. I even played that call off as we both have friends of opposite sex that we do things with individually. I knew exactly who he described and it only put the thought in my head. That's when things started adding up.

Take them onto Cheaters and have Joey Greco lay the smack down on their rootie-poot candy asses... http://www.atomictumor.com/wp-content/joeygreco.gif

Take them onto Cheaters and have Joey Greco lay the smack down on their rootie-poot candy asses... http://www.atomictumor.com/wp-content/joeygreco.gif They wouldn't pay enough for the story for all the BS that you would go through. Plus, it would all be twisted around before they would even air it. Thos shows are all jacked and played.

They wouldn't pay enough for the story for all the BS that you would go through. Plus, it would all be twisted around before they would even air it. Thos shows are all jacked and played. I dunno... Most of these people act like they don't already know, but they do... It's more of a revenge thing IMHO... I would do it, but I wouldn't bust their chops about it or get into a huge fight... I would laugh and say, "after this airs and I send a tape to everyone you know, they are going to know what sort of dirty azz biznatch you are... HOOKER!!!" Then I would walk away... Plus that would be an excellent way to pick up chicks in the future... "So your buddy doesn't seem to be enjoying himself" 'Yeah with the help of Cheaters, he just caught his girlfriend in the act' "Aww that sucks, maybe my twin sister and I can force ourselves on him to cheer him up?" 'I dunno, but it's worth a shot'

Plus that would be an excellent way to pick up chicks in the future... "So your buddy doesn't seem to be enjoying himself" 'Yeah with the help of Cheaters, he just caught his girlfriend in the act' "Aww that sucks, maybe my twin sister and I can force ourselves on him to cheer him up?" 'I dunno, but it's worth a shot' :dthumb:

cell phones clear call history have paperless bill (e-bill) have an understanding about who calls who! don't break the rules and don't break your regular routine (huge red flag)

cell phones clear call history have paperless bill (e-bill) have an understanding about who calls who! don't break the rules and don't break your regular routine (huge red flag) Spoken like a pro! :dthumb:

:lol: Alright, speaking from experience here..... When you come home, and your S.O. instantly minimizes the browser window, and then does everything possible to distract you from the computer so you don't see the name of the site in the toolbar. And then when you DO see it, claims he's just reading profiles, and that he accidentally was directed to the personals website while he was looking for p0rn. And then the big one.... when you go to log into your Yahoo mail on his laptop, and the Windows "Forms" function is active, and it automatically fills in a login name, which is similar to his normal email address, but just a little different and incorporates his middle name and his son's birthdate) but when asked about it, says, "Oh, I took my laptop to work, one of the guys at work must have logged into his mail." :skep: I like your personal experience but do I want to give up that much info on myself.....:scratch: :bash: You jacka$$, I'm not HELPING you cheat on your wife! :lol:

a sure fire way to tell is if you walk into the bedroom and your wife is passed out nakid, there is a tarp on the bed, whip cream on the ceiling and another dude in shower.....ya, dead giveaway Sounds like some personal experience to me :yikes:

my husband and i dated for less than 6 mos. before getting engaged. we'll be married 9 yrs. this december. back on topic... when your devout tshirt and jeans guy puts on a nice button down shirt and cologne to go out for a beer with the boys...big red flag! That seem to be the problem with my wife.....sometimes I wear cologne and sometimes I don't. When I do wear it, i always get these funny looks...:skep:

Strange numbers on the cell phone are always a red flag. Or in my case, familiar numbers showing up on the bill regularly on the wrong days. Other signs like acting strange when the other person is around. The other person quits hanging with your normal circle of friends. Strange phone calls from old friends asking if you are still with that person because the have been seen acting as a couple. Then finally just saying your going to work and really don't. Then catch them red handed. Ok, again I ask.... strange numbers on the cell phone. Do ya'll actually CHECK your S.O.'s phone logs and address books? :scratch: I don't check her phone log nor do I check her address book.....but we had a power outage one time and I looked at her phone to see what time it was. Well her address book was open on her phone and a certain name jumped out at me. I asked her about it and I'm getting the third degree as to why I was snooping in her phone. Red Flag #1 When I explained to her what I was doing, well now I'm accused of being nosey...... Red Flag #2 So now I'm starting to wonder what the big secret is about who that person was who was highlighted on her phone.......when you call, that person's name shows up unless you delete it from the last call list....or something like that.

Just so you know...I didn't run, I didn't even hear her. So i walked right by to the restroom.:cheers: and probably said to yourself, "I'm going to marry that girl one day".....:lol:

Spoken like a pro! :dthumb: :iagree:

Well her address book was open on her phone and a certain name jumped out at me. :wbs: :wbs: :wbs: :wbs: :lol: No one leaves their phone open on the address book (ESPECIALLY someone with something to hide). Sorry, but that's a BS reason... you intentionally went into her address book. No bones about it. ...well now I'm accused of being nosey...... Cus you ARE. :lol: Sounds to me like your guilty conscience is making YOU jump her ***** in order to take the attention off of you. You either ARE cheating, or are thinking about it, and you think if you start pointing fingers at HER, it takes the heat off you for a bit.

:wbs: :wbs: :wbs: :wbs: :lol: No one leaves their phone open on the address book (ESPECIALLY someone with something to hide). Sorry, but that's a BS reason... you intentionally went into her address book. No bones about it. Cus you ARE. :lol: Sounds to me like your guilty conscience is making YOU jump her ***** in order to take the attention off of you. You either ARE cheating, or are thinking about it, and you think if you start pointing fingers at HER, it takes the heat off you for a bit. nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.......been there, done that! You make a valid point though.:lol:

http://www.twowheelforum.com/photopost/direct_data/541/medium/dirty_wife.jpg I bet you can't guess who's husband wrote this....:wink:

http://www.twowheelforum.com/photopost/direct_data/541/medium/dirty_wife.jpg I bet you can't guess who's husband wrote this....:wink: I don't think anyone knows, since that pics been around the 'net for years now... :lol:

really, I just came across it today :scratch:

really, I just came across it today :scratch: :lol: Yeah, but it's still friggin' funny as hell....

Sounds to me like your guilty conscience is making YOU jump her ***** in order to take the attention off of you. You either ARE cheating, or are thinking about it, and you think if you start pointing fingers at HER, it takes the heat off you for a bit. People, the above is a perfect sign that your spouse could be cheating when you ask them a perfectly honest question and they respond by getting fired up and acusing you...classic dear abby stuff!!! :lol:

People, the above is a perfect sign that your spouse could be cheating when you ask them a perfectly honest question and they respond by getting fired up and acusing you...classic dear abby stuff!!! :lol: wait a minute, who's side are you on....mine or nee's :tt:

wait a minute, who's side are you on....mine or nee's :tt: I am not on anyones side...just posting up common knowledge...:lol: :hug: but see the other cheating thread...i posted about the cell phone thing...

Takes one to know one...I was completely trusting in my first marriage. Then when credit card bills with bar tabs started showing up, and she was doing more and more with the "girlfriends" I wondered. Then when I find a secret checking account I kinda saw it coming. I didn't want to believe it. The denial thing was in full force. Then she started wanting me to go and do things that a truly devoted spouse wouldn't want for their other and it was obvious... I tried for 4 years to save it but you can't do a relationship alone. Then I gave her the ultimatum. And that was that...:idk:

I am not on anyones side...just posting up common knowledge...:lol: :hug: but see the other cheating thread...i posted about the cell phone thing... OK, your off the hook with that one....:wink:

Just so you know...I didn't run, I didn't even hear her. So i walked right by to the restroom.:cheers: http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g189/DLIT_2006/throflcopter.gif

What I would do when I had the hunch was call the mysterious numbers from a work number. If it was a guy, I would have to see how many times he was called or he called her. She thought I was dumb to it, but I was on to her like crazy. You gotta put in the time to bust 'em. I did something similar to Jeeps. I left her room for the night and i waited across the street from the parking lot. I saw his car roll up and him go in. 5 minutes later I knocked on her door telling her i forgot my flight line access badge (I really didn't). She opened the door...busted! They weren't in the act, but he was there. It feels better knowing the truth than just wondering. If it was someone I didn't care about, I would've just dropped her. there's a looooooooooong story behind all that though.

What I would do when I had the hunch was call the mysterious numbers from a work number. If it was a guy, I would have to see how many times he was called or he called her. She thought I was dumb to it, but I was on to her like crazy. You gotta put in the time to bust 'em. I did something similar to Jeeps. I left her room for the night and i waited across the street from the parking lot. I saw his car roll up and him go in. 5 minutes later I knocked on her door telling her i forgot my flight line access badge (I really didn't). She opened the door...busted! They weren't in the act, but he was there. It feels better knowing the truth than just wondering. If it was someone I didn't care about, I would've just dropped her. there's a looooooooooong story behind all that though. so basically you were p-whipped?

so basically you were p-whipped? How do you get that from that story?

How do you get that from that story? I don't know, I'm getting sleepy.

I don't know, I'm getting sleepy. Yeah you are. http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g189/DLIT_2006/kel_goodnight.gif

cell phones clear call history have paperless bill (e-bill) have an understanding about who calls who! don't break the rules and don't break your regular routine (huge red flag) My received/dialed/missed call histories are always empty...I empty them daily...always have... most, >80% of the people in the contacts are listed by initials or numbers...I do it this way in case I lose my phone...other peoples' personal info won't be quite so easily used. Remember when someone jacked Paris Hilton's phone and published all the contacts, calls, etc on the 'net? I also keep my sent/received folders of e-mail empty. I do let the PM's back up though... I don't look in M's purse, I don't open mail that is not addressed to me...I don't access M's email account...I could...any time I want...and she reciprocates the same to me. Any and all financial transactions are logged onto spreadsheets, so any changes in spending would be noticed because it would have to be accounted for in the expense ledgers... The more transparent your lives are to each other...the trust is stronger

My received/dialed/missed call histories are always empty...I empty them daily...always have... most, >80% of the people in the contacts are listed by initials or numbers...I do it this way in case I lose my phone...other peoples' personal info won't be quite so easily used. Remember when someone jacked Paris Hilton's phone and published all the contacts, calls, etc on the 'net? I also keep my sent/received folders of e-mail empty. I do let the PM's back up though... I don't look in M's purse, I don't open mail that is not addressed to me...I don't access M's email account...I could...any time I want...and she reciprocates the same to me. Any and all financial transactions are logged onto spreadsheets, so any changes in spending would be noticed because it would have to be accounted for in the expense ledgers... The more transparent your lives are to each other...the trust is stronger :iagree: as always!

The more transparent your lives are to each other...the trust is stronger :iagree:

Is it really cheating if you put peanut butter on you *#@@& and let your dog lick it off?? I mean its YOUR DOG!!! (Kidding, quote from a movie folks, I may be perverted, but I am not that sick. LOL) Signs she/ he is cheating. Major changes from normal behavior. S.O begins to work out regularly (did not before), or use to get home from work at the same time every day, then it gets later. Or my buddies case...your at a party with your girl. She is in a different room and your talking to the guys whos house it is. Then she walks into the room and the guy says "I want to introduce you to my girlfriend"....DOH!:bash:

Here's how... When she's in bed with her best chick friend and you walk in. She then asks for you to join.... you say yes. Happened to me... :whistle:

Here's how... When she's in bed with her best chick friend and you walk in. She then asks for you to join.... you say yes. Happened to me... :whistle: Nice!:dthumb:

Here's how... When she's in bed with her best chick friend and you walk in. She then asks for you to join.... you say yes. Happened to me... :whistle: :scratch: See, now I don't think that qualifies as cheating, since it was with another girl.....

:scratch: See, now I don't think that qualifies as cheating, since it was with another girl..... not aslong as Im invited.