Re-evaluating the word friend-GXR-750 K6

I don't know if any of you know me, but whether u do or not I consider this TWF like family & I need to call on family now so show me some love, die hard truth, logic, and neutrality. I'm a gov't contract worker in the middle east currently & I left my GXR-750 K6 in my garage a month ago. I had just repaired it for the most part because I dropped it. Only thing that was left to repair was the left mirror, but the bolt was stripped & I asked my best friend to fix it for me. I figured he would repair it in my garage since that is where we repaired the rest of the bike(fairings, windscreen,fender, etc). I go back to work in the Middle East and he sends me an e-mail a week later saying the mirror was fixed and I thanked him. Here is the issue.My daughter's mother went to my home to check on things & she instant messaged me telling me the bike wasn't there. I'm freaking out.My brother told her that my friend said that I asked him to repair the bike & told my brother that I said he could take it. I only have liability insurance only by the way. My brother said he had the bike for 3 weeks and even came over to get my gloves claiming his hands were hurting from riding the bike.I immediately sent word to him to put my bike in the garage. He's been my boy since High School so how should I handle this situation. I've already said he can't use my car or my bike anymore. I'm just thinking I would have never done that to a friend. So my question is, Is he not a true friend or am I making a big deal out of nothing. He has had my back in the past, for which I am appreciative.:bash:

Sounds like a shiesty deal. has any harm come to your bike from this? was there maybe a miscomunication? maybe he though since he fixxed it w/o you you owed it to him, who knows. From the sound of things dont get too upset about it right now. If it's possible that he stole it than you should know how to get ahold of the guy and kick his ass, and if he claims he didnt steal it and its still missing you know where to find him. The law is very sketchy otherwise, in this sort of situation though. Unless you have documented proof that you said he WAS allowed to use your facilities but was NOT allowed to take the bike off your property than you are out of luck. what you need to do is explain to HIM how serious the situation is, and that your friendship may be on the line. If he values you as a friend he'll understand.

Sounds like a shiesty deal. has any harm come to your bike from this? was there maybe a miscomunication? maybe he though since he fixxed it w/o you you owed it to him, who knows. From the sound of things dont get too upset about it right now. If it's possible that he stole it than you should know how to get ahold of the guy and kick his ass, and if he claims he didnt steal it and its still missing you know where to find him. what you need to do is explain to HIM how serious the situation is, and that your friendship may be on the line. If he values you as a friend he'll understand. No harm has come to my bike. He brought it over the moment I left a msg for him to bring the bike back. It was never communicated for him to take the bike and definately not to keep my bike for 3 weeks. He could have easily e-mailed me and told me. He was nice enough to email me and tell me that the mirror was fixed. When I e-mailed him and told him that I didn't appreciate it he responded by saying something like, "Excuse me for riding the bike around the neighborhood" After that response I'm more angry, but I've learned not to make a decision while upset. That's why I'm with my TWF family now.

He's just taking advantage of you-period. Sure he helped fix you bike but did he pay for it? I used to have friends that would do sh*t like that. Funny that ususally these "friends" can't afford to replace or even buy a bike if they wreck them. Honestly drop your "friend", if he was your friend he wouldn't be taking what's yours out for his own enjoyment.

yah this really boils down to a matter of respect. He doesnt respect you enough to understand that you were concerned about your investment. Bikes arent toys, they are very expensive. If he is too childish to man up and say "im sorry i took advantage of your trust" then you are better of seeing him less and less, he'll only bring you down with him man.

yah this really boils down to a matter of respect. He doesnt respect you enough to understand that you were concerned about your investment. Bikes arent toys, they are very expensive. If he is too childish to man up and say "im sorry i took advantage of your trust" then you are better of seeing him less and less, he'll only bring you down with him man. NonTooSoft and Ghostrider, thank you for your input. Both of you have pretty much told me in one way or another that he was wrong. It's a shame that he and I have been through alot and helped each other throughout the years and I have to distance myself from him. Well I'm quite far away now since I'm in Iraq for another 7 months. My bike is not a toy. It's an expensive acquired taste that I take seriously. Just like Ghostrider said earlier if he would had dropped it or totaled it he hasn't the funds to replace or repair it so why would he take a chance? Why, because he has no respect as nontooSoft suggested. I wish I had friends who were on my level mentally instead of dooshbags!!:readng:

:iagree: wash your hands of this fool. would he just take it upon himself to help himself to your girlfriend if you left her behind? that's not a friend...

I caught my ex wife sleeping with my supposed best friend.... he was my best friend for over 10 years...my brst man in my wedding... and was my daughter's godfather.... I have a real problem with trust now... so i let actions do the talking. confront him and ask him why he took the bike out and if it looks like bull**** and smells like bull****..... then it's bull****... if the reason sounds legit... you make the call.

I caught my ex wife sleeping with my supposed best friend.... he was my best friend for over 10 years...my brst man in my wedding... and was my daughter's godfather.... I have a real problem with trust now... so i let actions do the talking. confront him and ask him why he took the bike out and if it looks like bull**** and smells like bull****..... then it's bull****... if the reason sounds legit... you make the call. Man that's unbelievable. Makes you wonder if he was doing her while ya'll were still married. That's like the most disrespectful thing I ever heard. Here I am talking about a bike, but this was your ex-wife. I feel for you bro. There is just no comparison between a bike and a person you love. Well, I do love my bike and that is why I'm seriously considering dumping him as a friend. Because friends do friendly things and not evil things. As friends we screw up sometimes, but as friends we don't Fk up<<< Can I say Fk on this site?

ouch man. he might be a friend but he cant really be trusted. only one of my friends rides my bike (when i know hes ridin it) and he knows if he hurts it i ride his while he fixes it! I could ride a cbr900 if he wrecked my cbr929. woudnt like any of it but i would. i wouldnt say ditch him but id make sure he didnt have a key to my house or garage!

I would say that your friend is at the least very disrespectful of your property, and I would not put up with that. If he were to own up to being wrong about taking your nike with out permission and apologize I might let it slide. If he doesn't see what the deal is then he is not the kind of friend you should have. Its one thing to lend a friend in need a hundred bucks and know that it could be a very long time if ever that you get payed back. It is a totaly different matter for a friend to decieve your brother and use your bike with out asking you that is not cool at all...:nonod:

He's just taking advantage of you-period. Sure he helped fix you bike but did he pay for it? I used to have friends that would do sh*t like that. Funny that ususally these "friends" can't afford to replace or even buy a bike if they wreck them. Honestly drop your "friend", if he was your friend he wouldn't be taking what's yours out for his own enjoyment. yah this really boils down to a matter of respect. He doesnt respect you enough to understand that you were concerned about your investment. Bikes arent toys, they are very expensive. If he is too childish to man up and say "im sorry i took advantage of your trust" then you are better of seeing him less and less, he'll only bring you down with him man. :iagree: wash your hands of this fool. would he just take it upon himself to help himself to your girlfriend if you left her behind? that's not a friend... I caught my ex wife sleeping with my supposed best friend.... he was my best friend for over 10 years...my brst man in my wedding... and was my daughter's godfather.... I have a real problem with trust now... so i let actions do the talking. confront him and ask him why he took the bike out and if it looks like bull**** and smells like bull****..... then it's bull****... if the reason sounds legit... you make the call. I would say that your friend is at the least very disrespectful of your property, and I would not put up with that. If he were to own up to being wrong about taking your nike with out permission and apologize I might let it slide. If he doesn't see what the deal is then he is not the kind of friend you should have. Its one thing to lend a friend in need a hundred bucks and know that it could be a very long time if ever that you get payed back. It is a totaly different matter for a friend to decieve your brother and use your bike with out asking you that is not cool at all...:nonod: :iagree: :withstupi I would drop this guy like a bad habit man....or a good habit in my case....Like it girl said in my eyes that is like helping you self to my girl.....:tt: not gonna happen with out getting shot at in the process.

Man that's unbelievable. Makes you wonder if he was doing her while ya'll were still married. That's like the most disrespectful thing I ever heard. Here I am talking about a bike, but this was your ex-wife. I feel for you bro. There is just no comparison between a bike and a person you love. Well, I do love my bike and that is why I'm seriously considering dumping him as a friend. Because friends do friendly things and not evil things. As friends we screw up sometimes, but as friends we don't Fk up<<< Can I say Fk on this site? SORRY.... so used to calling her my ex wife now.... we were married at the time... i fu#$ed him up something fierce... hence the reason for the last option on every poll on this forum since i joined....<-------inside joke i used to trust everyone until they give me a reason not to... now i trust no one even if they give me reason to trust them.

Ok, here's my take on it. He was disrespectful for assuming you wouldn't mind if he rode your bike. But he was respectful enough to return it immediately when you messaged him. I think you should first make it clear (without being an ass) that you simply don't want your bike being ridden while you're away. Explain about the insurance and the fact that you just got the bike fixed. You don't want it wrecked and your insurance won't cover him (it would, but he probably doesn't know that). Try to make it sound like it's in his best interest to NOT ride the bike. Explain that you only have liability and you wouldn't want him owing you to replace the bike if it's wrecked. Or just say that even though he's your friend, you simply don't want anyone to ride your bike. If he understands this, then all is good. If he doesn't, then it's definitely time to find a new friend. But keep in mind, true friends are harder to find than new bikes.

Ok, here's my take on it. He was disrespectful for assuming you wouldn't mind if he rode your bike. But he was respectful enough to return it immediately when you messaged him. I think you should first make it clear (without being an ass) that you simply don't want your bike being ridden while you're away. Explain about the insurance and the fact that you just got the bike fixed. You don't want it wrecked and your insurance won't cover him (it would, but he probably doesn't know that). Try to make it sound like it's in his best interest to NOT ride the bike. Explain that you only have liability and you wouldn't want him owing you to replace the bike if it's wrecked. Or just say that even though he's your friend, you simply don't want anyone to ride your bike. If he understands this, then all is good. If he doesn't, then it's definitely time to find a new friend. But keep in mind, true friends are harder to find than new bikes. :iagree: That pretty much sums it up perfectly...:dthumb:

Ok, here's my take on it. He was disrespectful for assuming you wouldn't mind if he rode your bike. But he was respectful enough to return it immediately when you messaged him. I think you should first make it clear (without being an ass) that you simply don't want your bike being ridden while you're away. Explain about the insurance and the fact that you just got the bike fixed. You don't want it wrecked and your insurance won't cover him (it would, but he probably doesn't know that). Try to make it sound like it's in his best interest to NOT ride the bike. Explain that you only have liability and you wouldn't want him owing you to replace the bike if it's wrecked. Or just say that even though he's your friend, you simply don't want anyone to ride your bike. If he understands this, then all is good. If he doesn't, then it's definitely time to find a new friend. But keep in mind, true friends are harder to find than new bikes. damn I hate it when some one argues and makes since........he is right.

damn I hate it when some one argues and makes since........he is right. :iagree: Capn has shown to have much relationship wisdom; he is a regualr doctor phil...:lol:

:iagree: Capn has shown to have much relationship wisdom; he is a regualr doctor phil...:lol: Eh, don't put too much faith in me. I'm single, so I must be doing something wrong, at least according to people who have no business telling me to get married. :lol:

a "friend" of mine wanted to take my bike to the next city (45min away) i just looked at him and laughed. there is only one other person who has riddin my bike. he is a very good friend and if he wrecked it.. he has the money to replace it. other then that. no one tuches _her_! and if some one took her with out me knowing.. id find out why and if i didn't like the answer.. id be kickin some ass.

Ok, here's my take on it. He was disrespectful for assuming you wouldn't mind if he rode your bike. But he was respectful enough to return it immediately when you messaged him. I think you should first make it clear (without being an ass) that you simply don't want your bike being ridden while you're away. Explain about the insurance and the fact that you just got the bike fixed. You don't want it wrecked and your insurance won't cover him (it would, but he probably doesn't know that). Try to make it sound like it's in his best interest to NOT ride the bike. Explain that you only have liability and you wouldn't want him owing you to replace the bike if it's wrecked. Or just say that even though he's your friend, you simply don't want anyone to ride your bike. If he understands this, then all is good. If he doesn't, then it's definitely time to find a new friend. But keep in mind, true friends are harder to find than new bikes. :iagree: 100%

I don't know if any of you know me, but whether u do or not I consider this TWF like family & I need to call on family now so show me some love, die hard truth, logic, and neutrality. I'm a gov't contract worker in the middle east currently & I left my GXR-750 K6 in my garage a month ago. I had just repaired it for the most part because I dropped it. Only thing that was left to repair was the left mirror, but the bolt was stripped & I asked my best friend to fix it for me. I figured he would repair it in my garage since that is where we repaired the rest of the bike(fairings, windscreen,fender, etc). I go back to work in the Middle East and he sends me an e-mail a week later saying the mirror was fixed and I thanked him. Here is the issue.My daughter's mother went to my home to check on things & she instant messaged me telling me the bike wasn't there. I'm freaking out.My brother told her that my friend said that I asked him to repair the bike & told my brother that I said he could take it. I only have liability insurance only by the way. My brother said he had the bike for 3 weeks and even came over to get my gloves claiming his hands were hurting from riding the bike.I immediately sent word to him to put my bike in the garage. He's been my boy since High School so how should I handle this situation. I've already said he can't use my car or my bike anymore. I'm just thinking I would have never done that to a friend. So my question is, Is he not a true friend or am I making a big deal out of nothing. He has had my back in the past, for which I am appreciative.:bash: i dont konw what i would do myself....

i dont konw what i would do myself.... :scratch:

I think an ass-kickin is in order.

I think it deserves... http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e76/natehindle/kick_in_the_balls_2005-04-13.jpg

I think an ass-kickin is in order. Man that's the way I feel, except I'm trying to be civilized. I'd rather he just realize that taking someone's bike is a major deal and I'm afraid I don't think he realizes the extent of the consequences. I'm telling him, "for crying out loud, you took my bike for 3 weeks without my knowledge". I know he is my best friend, but dang I hv no idea what he was thinking...

These doods are on the right track. Remember...that is YOUR bike. Not his. A bike you spent your hard earned cash on. And a damn nice on at that. Set this guy straight or cut him loose. Let me put it to you this way...if I was out of town and one of my buddies came over and was boss hoggin my bike while I was gone they'd get run. And my bike is 14 years older than yours. The bottom line is this: Your bike is like your lady. You dont put your hands on another man's lady in a familiar way. Your boy laid his hands on your lady in a familiar way. Break him off. I own a 1992 GSXR 750. It's old. But it's mine. I am the only one that rides it...with VERY few exceptions. 3 other people have rode it. Thats it. 3.

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These doods are on the right track. Remember...that is YOUR bike. Not his. A bike you spent your hard earned cash on. And a damn nice on at that. Set this guy straight or cut him loose. Let me put it to you this way...if I was out of town and one of my buddies came over and was boss hoggin my bike while I was gone they'd get run. And my bike is 14 years older than yours. The bottom line is this: Your bike is like your lady. You dont put your hands on another man's lady in a familiar way. Your boy laid his hands on your lady in a familiar way. Break him off. I own a 1992 GSXR 750. It's old. But it's mine. I am the only one that rides it...with VERY few exceptions. 3 other people have rode it. Thats it. 3. Ya'll are right. At the very least I'm going to set him straight. My bike is my lady. It is my hard earned dollars that paid it off. I know if I was there and found the bike gone my first instinct would have been to kick his ass. i was really hot.

Ok, here's my take on it. He was disrespectful for assuming you wouldn't mind if he rode your bike. But he was respectful enough to return it immediately when you messaged him. I think you should first make it clear (without being an ass) that you simply don't want your bike being ridden while you're away. Explain about the insurance and the fact that you just got the bike fixed. You don't want it wrecked and your insurance won't cover him (it would, but he probably doesn't know that). Try to make it sound like it's in his best interest to NOT ride the bike. Explain that you only have liability and you wouldn't want him owing you to replace the bike if it's wrecked. Or just say that even though he's your friend, you simply don't want anyone to ride your bike. If he understands this, then all is good. If he doesn't, then it's definitely time to find a new friend. But keep in mind, true friends are harder to find than new bikes. :iagree: Bikes are plentiful, and can be picked up every day. Friendships, not so. They usually take years to establish, and, aside from your buddy diddling your wife, should take years to dissolve. I wouldn't let what sounds like a misunderstanding end years of work. Just my :2cents: On another note, good luck in the East. Watch your back!

:iagree: Bikes are plentiful, and can be picked up every day. Friendships, not so. They usually take years to establish, and, aside from your buddy diddling your wife, should take years to dissolve. I wouldn't let what sounds like a misunderstanding end years of work. Just my :2cents: On another note, good luck in the East. Watch your back! I'm watching my front and my bike and so is are my Army, Navy, Airforce, and Marine buddies out here in the middle east. All I know is that from now on there will be clear un-cut boundaries when it comes to my stuff. The way I put it is don't touch any of my stuff. I don't care if it's a pair of socks.

Forgiveness can have a powerfull, extraordinary effect on some people. Just one act of forgiveness can change a persons life for the better. :cheers: :2cents:

I'm watching my front and my bike and so is are my Army, Navy, Airforce, and Marine buddies out here in the middle east. All I know is that from now on there will be clear un-cut boundaries when it comes to my stuff. The way I put it is don't touch any of my stuff. I don't care if it's a pair of socks. Have someone mail you the keys to that beast. then no one can ride it......:dthumb: Forgiveness can have a powerfull, extraordinary effect on some people. Just one act of forgiveness can change a persons life for the better. :cheers: :2cents: but :iagree: lots of good points on here....

or you can just tell me where the bike is now and I'll go pick it up for you. I'll take real good care of it for you....:whistle:

or you can just tell me where the bike is now and I'll go pick it up for you. I'll take real good care of it for you....:whistle: ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. I've just given strict instructions to my family to leave the bike in the corner with the little charger on it and no one is to ride it. Has any friend ever taken your bike, car, or anything without your consent? It freaking blows.

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. I've just given strict instructions to my family to leave the bike in the corner with the little charger on it and no one is to ride it. Has any friend ever taken your bike, car, or anything without your consent? It freaking blows. yes......and unfortantly I wasn't far enough away to think the situation over like you have. I went straight to wooping ass. i lost a real good friend. But you know what....if they were stupid enough to take my "girl" then they needed too.:whistle:

yes......and unfortantly I wasn't far enough away to think the situation over like you have. I went straight to wooping ass. i lost a real good friend. But you know what....if they were stupid enough to take my "girl" then they needed too.:whistle: Since he took my bike w/out my consent, what do you think I can take of his to compare what he did to me? hmm... And he doesn't have a girlfriend at the moment. People who don't own bikes tend to think that a bike is just a toy and don't consider the bike a serious investment. But it's an investment in myself. Us bikers are in our own click that outsiders will never understand.

Since he took my bike w/out my consent, what do you think I can take of his to compare what he did to me? hmm... And he doesn't have a girlfriend at the moment. People who don't own bikes tend to think that a bike is just a toy and don't consider the bike a serious investment. But it's an investment in myself. Us bikers are in our own click that outsiders will never understand. words of wisdom man.....true words of wisdom...:dthumb: as for what you could take...if he isn't a biker I don't think he would ever understand how pissed your really are.:idk:

Since he took my bike w/out my consent, what do you think I can take of his to compare what he did to me? hmm... And he doesn't have a girlfriend at the moment. People who don't own bikes tend to think that a bike is just a toy and don't consider the bike a serious investment. But it's an investment in myself. Us bikers are in our own click that outsiders will never understand. Thats just it. They dont understand. Non-bike owners think its "no big deal". They dont get it. Thats why we gotta stick together. Give the guy the benefit of the doubt this time around. Let him explain himself and then lay down the law on how your machine is handled when you are or are not around. If it happens again, you know what must be done.

Thats just it. They dont understand. Non-bike owners think its "no big deal". They dont get it. Thats why we gotta stick together. Give the guy the benefit of the doubt this time around. Let him explain himself and then lay down the law on how your machine is handled when you are or are not around. If it happens again, you know what must be done. the man speaks the truff.

words of wisdom man.....true words of wisdom...:dthumb: as for what you could take...if he isn't a biker I don't think he would ever understand how pissed your really are.:idk: I'll tell you all one thing, there's going to be some changes just for the simple fact that he took it. Therefore there will be no further misunderstandings. He's my friend since High School and I'd hate to lose him, but I'll ditch him if he ever does anything even remotely close as taking my bike again. Peeps, I really appreciate the attention that has been given to me on this forum. I want to thank each and everyone of you. I was really having an emotional crisis. Since I've gotten it out I feel alot better. Thanks for being objective and emotional with me on this subject matter.

I'll tell you all one thing, there's going to be some changes just for the simple fact that he took it. Therefore there will be no further misunderstandings. He's my friend since High School and I'd hate to lose him, but I'll ditch him if he ever does anything even remotely close as taking my bike again. Peeps, I really appreciate the attention that has been given to me on this forum. I want to thank each and everyone of you. I was really having an emotional crisis. Since I've gotten it out I feel alot better. Thanks for being objective and emotional with me on this subject matter. It's all good man. Thats what we're here for. :cheers:

It's all good man. Thats what we're here for. :cheers: :iagree: