Didnt think young men still did this...

This Easter I was at my inlaws and was outside having a cigarette and my daughters boyfriend came out and started talking to me and finally said, " John, I love your daughter and want to know if its alright with you if I ask her to marry me" :crazy: ....well that took me by suprise as i wanted to say hell no :wink: , but I was good about it and said I would be happy to have him marry my daughter... hes a good kid and it was kind of nice that he asked me like that.....just didnt think guys still did it,,,,,

there are still some proper guys out there... I'm hunting them down one by one

I'm probably going to do the same to my g/f's parents later on this year, or early next year. I know her mom wishes it would happen asap. :lol: Her dad on the other hand is a state rep, and I've only met him one time.... so I don't know if I should even bother with him.

When my ex-husband proposed to me, he did ask both my parents before hand. Of course they hated him and told him no, he did it anyway. And since I needed a date for my wedding, I accepted.

When my ex-husband proposed to me, he did ask both my parents before hand. Of course they hated him and told him no, he did it anyway. And since I needed a date for my wedding, I accepted. :rofl:

congradulations are in order Jack! And which daughter... you have 2 dont you?

congradulations are in order Jack! And which daughter... you have 2 dont you? my older one, the 25 year old , 2 weeks ago she was involved in a rollover and crashed into a parked car. thankfully she was not hurt and her seatbelts saved her life :angelhap: ,,,,,I think the accident made him realize how much she means to him,,,,,,,,

my older one, the 25 year old , 2 weeks ago she was involved in a rollover and crashed into a parked car. thankfully she was not hurt and her seatbelts saved her life :angelhap: ,,,,,I think the accident made him realize how much she means to him,,,,,,,, yikes- glad shes still walking and talking. so how much is she getting you to spend on the wedding?

wow another north shore guy, im from stoneham we should meet up and ride sometime. But anyhow, congrats! There are still some good guys out there:cheers:

Both of my sister's husbands did that. I told my boyfriend he has to in order to get on my father's good side. Haha. I think guys think that father's are old fashioned or something so they need to. Congratulations though, glad she's okay. Have fun dishing out money for a wedding! :wink:

I actually just did that same thing right before I got engaged in december. I was more scared of telling her mom after I asked permission from her dad. I am a proper little southern boy though, still say "yes sir/ma'am" and "no sir/ma'am." I would get punished if I didn't mind my manners as a kid. It's sorta sad that people being respectful is surprising in this world.

When my ex-husband proposed to me, he did ask both my parents before hand. Of course they hated him and told him no, he did it anyway. And since I needed a date for my wedding, I accepted. :lol:

Haven't seen you around here for awhile, Jack. Nice to have ya back. Congrats on the new son-in-law-to-be. I would also ask permission from a girl's father prior to asking her, but I don't see myself ever getting married anyway.

I asked my father-in-law a few years ago before I proposed

I'm still waiting for SOMEONE to ask my Dad... :here: :here: :here: :here: :here:

I think guys think that father's are old fashioned or something so they need to. Congratulations though, glad she's okay. Have fun dishing out money for a wedding! :wink:I asked my FIL beforehand because it shows respect and that's pretty heavily embedded in me. When you see shows like the one on MTV where the parents find their kids alternate SO's (Parental Control?), it makes me nervous about the future of our Country. The way these SO's treat the parents is nothing short of obnoxious. And don't get me started on My Sweet 16.....

I asked my FIL beforehand because it shows respect and that's pretty heavily embedded in me. When you see shows like the one on MTV where the parents find their kids alternate SO's (Parental Control?), it makes me nervous about the future of our Country. The way these SO's treat the parents is nothing short of obnoxious. And don't get me started on My Sweet 16..... damn haven't seen you on here in a while... Welcome back! anywhoo... the one occasion where I was serious about the girl... her father passed before I could ask... her mother is 100% Korean and speaks VERY little English... so I asked her older brother... He and I didn't see eye to eye on many things... but I think that just me asking solved a lot of our issues... now if only the girl would have stayed in one place long enough for me to ask her :lol:

It's def. a sign of respect. I asked my wife's father first. We'd dated for 4 years by that time and we got along pretty well....he was cool with it.

My wife's father is a deacon in a church...so I took him outside and asked him before she ever knew. Hell we were living together for the last 2 years :lol: he didn't like that to much....but his views changed after I did that. I even told him if he disapproved I would wait untill he would.:wink: extra brownie points....:lol:

My wife's father is a deacon in a church...so I took him outside and asked him before she ever knew. Hell we were living together for the last 2 years :lol: he didn't like that to much....but his views changed after I did that. I even told him if he disapproved I would wait untill he would.:wink: extra brownie points....:lol: good thing he didn't call your bluff! :lol:

good thing he didn't call your bluff! :lol: it wouldn't have mattered....hell I have waited freaking 5 years already :lol:

it wouldn't have mattered....hell I have waited freaking 5 years already :lol: :lol: yeah well it sounds like you were pretty much married anyways... so waiting wouldn't have made much of a difference... other than lowering your insurance :lol:

:lol: yeah well it sounds like you were pretty much married anyways... so waiting wouldn't have made much of a difference... other than lowering your insurance :lol: :iagree: you got it...:D

I always ask a girls father if its okay for me to have sex with her on the first date. I have mad respect.

I always ask a girls father if its okay for me to have sex with her on the first date. I have mad respect. tell the truth... you as the bar tender... you don't even know their names :lol:

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tell the truth... you as the bar tender... you don't even know their names :lol: :lol: the other day i was with a girl, she was bout to go to the restroom before we went home, and i saw a buddy of mine. dialog as follows. Me: hey whats up man Friend: hey hows it goin. Me: good good, just about to get out of here. hey this is ... ... Ashley. Ashley this is Andrew. Ashley: you forgot my name Me: no i didnt, i was pausing for dramatic effect Ashley: giggle Me: (relieved look on face) Andrew (after ashley is in the rest room): :baha:

:lol: the other day i was with a girl, she was bout to go to the restroom before we went home, and i saw a buddy of mine. dialog as follows. Me: hey whats up man Friend: hey hows it goin. Me: good good, just about to get out of here. hey this is ... ... Ashley. Ashley this is Andrew. Ashley: you forgot my name Me: no i didnt, i was pausing for dramatic effect Ashley: giggle Me: (relieved look on face) Andrew (after ashley is in the rest room): :baha: :slol: I now have chewed pizza rolls all over my laptop!

:lol: the other day i was with a girl, she was bout to go to the restroom before we went home, and i saw a buddy of mine. dialog as follows. Me: hey whats up man Friend: hey hows it goin. Me: good good, just about to get out of here. hey this is ... ... Ashley. Ashley this is Andrew. Ashley: you forgot my name Me: no i didnt, i was pausing for dramatic effect Ashley: giggle Me: (relieved look on face) Andrew (after ashley is in the rest room): :baha: :skep: aww the good ole days :lol: I bartened my way through flight school.

I'm still waiting for SOMEONE to ask my Dad... :here: :here: :here: :here: :here: Where does your dad live? I'm on my way now. :D

Where does your dad live? I'm on my way now. :D comming from the guy with the Why wont people stop asking me if i'm married yetguy

I asked my FIL beforehand because it shows respect and that's pretty heavily embedded in me. When you see shows like the one on MTV where the parents find their kids alternate SO's (Parental Control?), it makes me nervous about the future of our Country. The way these SO's treat the parents is nothing short of obnoxious. And don't get me started on My Sweet 16..... Oh I know, MTV is not real life however (thank god). I think they play up some of the stuff but one of the girls on My Sweet 16 was at the high school I went to and I can tell you from personal experience that her attitude was real. I know that other show you're talking about, I always though those kids were really rude, even for brats. But yes from my knowledge most people are not like that which is why it's not surprising to me to hear someone say they asked their wife's father before proposing. :lol: the other day i was with a girl, she was bout to go to the restroom before we went home, and i saw a buddy of mine. dialog as follows. Me: hey whats up man Friend: hey hows it goin. Me: good good, just about to get out of here. hey this is ... ... Ashley. Ashley this is Andrew. Ashley: you forgot my name Me: no i didnt, i was pausing for dramatic effect Ashley: giggle Me: (relieved look on face) Andrew (after ashley is in the rest room): :baha: :lols: Ahh bartending..I should do that.

:baha: @ N2S

i think it is sooo sweet for a guy to ask a father's permission to propose. that would just make me melt. my hubby didn't do it, but my brother-in-law did before he asked my sister. it really shows class.

comming from the guy with the Why wont people stop asking me if i'm married yetguy Hey, I still have to flirt. Besides, she's in L.A. and I'd NEVER move there. But nothing wrong with flirting with the ladies. ;) i think it is sooo sweet for a guy to ask a father's permission to propose. that would just make me melt. my hubby didn't do it, but my brother-in-law did before he asked my sister. it really shows class. So...your husband has no class? :skep: :lol: :D Ya know I love ya, Kim, but you set that one up.

Hey, I still have to flirt. Besides, she's in L.A. and I'd NEVER move there. But nothing wrong with flirting with the ladies. ;) AMEN! :lhump:

I'm still waiting for SOMEONE to ask my Dad... :here: :here: :here: :here: :here: Play your cards right, and I just might!:wink:

So...your husband has no class? :skep: :lol: :D Ya know I love ya, Kim, but you set that one up. :lol: well, ya got me there. :dthumb:

I'm probably going to do the same to my g/f's parents later on this year, or early next year. I know her mom wishes it would happen asap. :lol: Her dad on the other hand is a state rep, and I've only met him one time.... so I don't know if I should even bother with him. I get the feeling my girl's parents would really appreciate it. She keeps saying they're real proper people, but I thought they were cool. Pretty sure I already have waay more brownie points than any other guy, and that would put me in for life.:lol: Friends for three years, dating two months, and she's moving to Atlanta in the summer for a job. This could get rough... I'm still waiting for SOMEONE to ask my Dad... :here: :here: :here: :here: :here: :here: Oh, Oh, pick me!!:here: :lol: :skep: :lhump: are coming....

I'm going to have to ask my girls grandfather. Her dad is still around, but her grandpa is much more the proper one, and been more of a father figure to her. The all love me and treat me as a son already, so it shouldn't be too hard to get in! :cheers:

Hey, I still have to flirt. Besides, she's in L.A. and I'd NEVER move there. But nothing wrong with flirting with the ladies. ;) You dont flirt on the internet, you stalk.

Jack.. sometimes us whippersnappers get it right. I asked my now father-in-law at thanksgiving. It was 2 months after I got my current job (not the same title but same company), which I told him I would finally be able to provide for his daughter. Told him I wanted to do it at Christmas. He agreed and thanked me for asking. I think its a great and respectable tradition. If I ever have a daughter, the boy better ask me before he asks her. That way I have time to shoot him and barry the body before he gets around to her! :whistle: :lol: So congrads Jack. Has he asked your daughter? Does she still live with you? How hard was it to not tell her? How did mom take it?

I think its a great and respectable tradition. If I ever have a daughter, the boy better ask me before he asks her. That way I have time to shoot him and barry the body before he gets around to her! :whistle: :lol: So congrads Jack. Has he asked your daughter? Does she still live with you? How hard was it to not tell her? How did mom take it? :iagree: and Inquiring minds want to know! When I was engaged before the guy actually got so excited just asked me without asking my dad. I had to remind him about asking my dad first so after talking to my dad later in the day it was a go, well at least for a little while. :willy: Congrats GJ!

I think its a great and respectable tradition. If I ever have a daughter, the boy better ask me before he asks her. That way I have time to shoot him and barry the body before he gets around to her! :whistle: :lol: thats not even a typo... I cant believe you're a mod:tt: haha, ya so inquiring minds would like to know So congrads Jack. Has he asked your daughter? Does she still live with you? How hard was it to not tell her? How did mom take it?

He hasnt asked her yet, and he's not going to till they go away to bermuda a month from now, :yikes: so i havnt told anyone except my wife,,,,and you guys. :dthumb: .... and not only did I not tell my wife while we were at her mothers at easter , we had to drive my other daughter back to college (not far, 45 minutes from us) and i didnt want to tell her either so as soon as we dropped off my daughter i pulled over in the parking lot and my wife was like wtf is going on, and when i told her she was just crying her eyes out, as i knew she would :hug: its real hard not to say anything but im hoping he wont be able to not ask her till next month and get it all out in the open soon, so we can start preparing etc......

And since I needed a date for my wedding, I accepted. :baha: Oh holy crap... nice!!! :clap:

That's cool Jack. I'm sure it was eating you up inside for those few hours!

I'm still waiting for SOMEONE to ask my Dad... :here: :here: :here: :here: :here: You move to Ohio and I'll kick my GF out and call your dad all in the same day... comming from the guy with the Why wont people stop asking me if i'm married yetguy :baha: My bro inlaw and soon to be step-bro inlaw and the previous step bro inlaw asked... As did my one buddy who got married last Sept, my buddy who's getting married this coming Sept, and the guy who does my job on another dialer... I thought it was just the way things were...

:iagree: and Inquiring minds want to know! When I was engaged before the guy actually got so excited just asked me without asking my dad. I had to remind him about asking my dad first so after talking to my dad later in the day it was a go, well at least for a little while. :willy: Congrats GJ!Don't feel bad. I was on the other end once. Got engaged (properly) but realized five months in it was a mistake. Its WAAAAY better to break off an engagement than to end a marriage :2cents:

This Easter I was at my inlaws and was outside having a cigarette and my daughters boyfriend came out and started talking to me and finally said, " John, I love your daughter and want to know if its alright with you if I ask her to marry me" :crazy: ....well that took me by suprise as i wanted to say hell no :wink: , but I was good about it and said I would be happy to have him marry my daughter... hes a good kid and it was kind of nice that he asked me like that.....just didnt think guys still did it,,,,, I was 31 when I asked my wife's mother the same (her dad had died a few years before). She was kinda shocked too, but thanked me & gave me permission. Being a gentleman has it's rewards. My mother-in-law doesn't bother me (woo hoo), the friends I have in my life are real & would step in front of a bullet for me (& vice versa), & the respect is in abundance. Great post, Jack :cheers: rep'ed

As I said... I didn't ask my mother in law... but in a way I did. I bought the engagement ring from her (she's a jewelrer and divorced from from my wife's father sense she was a kid)... so that put a neat twist on it.

a little respect goes a long way, for bikes and people

thats not even a typo... I cant believe you're a mod:tt: I'll revoke his privledges.

I don't see myself ever getting married anyway. :withstupi

I'm an old fashioned romantic type chick (flowers, door opening, respectful, pulling the chair out, etc) I'm a sucker for that type of stuff and if I ever do get married it won't matter if he asks my parents or not. I don't really mind that at all if he didn't. But it's pretty cool to see some guys still do.

:iagree: and Inquiring minds want to know! When I was engaged before the guy actually got so excited just asked me without asking my dad. I had to remind him about asking my dad first so after talking to my dad later in the day it was a go, well at least for a little while. :willy: Congrats GJ! Thanks P... he just asked her last night (glad he couldnt wait a month) she didnt even know that he had asked me and thought that was real sweet of him....she called and told me and my wife and she was real excited about it...he's a good guy, good job and treats her real good, expecially since she can be a real btch at times...(must get that from me :hug: ) well now its time for the wife and her to go wedding planning......:yikes:

Thanks P... he just asked her last night (glad he couldnt wait a month) she didnt even know that he had asked me and thought that was real sweet of him....she called and told me and my wife and she was real excited about it...he's a good guy, good job and treats her real good, expecially since she can be a real btch at times...(must get that from me :hug: ) well now its time for the wife and her to go wedding planning......:yikes: Time to break the piggy bank.

I'm an old fashioned romantic type chick (flowers, door opening, respectful, pulling the chair out, etc) I'm a sucker for that type of stuff and if I ever do get married it won't matter if he asks my parents or not. I don't really mind that at all if he didn't. But it's pretty cool to see some guys still do. "taking notes"

Thanks P... he just asked her last night (glad he couldnt wait a month) she didnt even know that he had asked me and thought that was real sweet of him....she called and told me and my wife and she was real excited about it...he's a good guy, good job and treats her real good, expecially since she can be a real btch at times...(must get that from me :hug: ) That is cool Jack! I'm happy for you all! :cheers: well now its time for the wife and her to go wedding planning......:yikes: But dad better bust out the ol' wallet!! Cause its going to get emptied! Here's the coolest suggestion. Pay her $5,000 to go to Vegas and elope! They can use it for a house down payment!

That is cool Jack! I'm happy for you all! :cheers: But dad better bust out the ol' wallet!! Cause its going to get emptied! Here's the coolest suggestion. Pay her $5,000 to go to Vegas and elope! They can use it for a house down payment! Oh, I am sure the moms would LOVE that idea... :lol:

congrats Mr.Jack sir....:cheers: well befor I asked, my passed away last year,... she had asked my parents,.....god bless her haert,....when I was going to ask,.her accident had hadppend and she passed away that night...and I could not speak for week's,...... oh sorry,.... Congrats Mr.Jack sir,.:cheers: