what would you do

god i hate these kinds of situations...... okay, i've got a huge problem regarding my current g/f and my ex. the girl i'm going out with right now lives in tennesee (i live in eastern washington) with her dad, and her mom lives here. the problem is that both of us know that long distance relationships don't work 99% of the time but figured we'd try it. and now enter the ex. i was with my ex for 2 years before we broke up. we're still friends although we only talk on the phone and don't hang out as we've gone different paths in our lives. lately my ex has been calling me much more often and keeps hinting that she hates being with the guy she's with now by talking about how much he pisses her off and how things were so much better for her when we were together. she also keeps hinting that she'd like us to get back together. so i don't know what to do, the girl i'm with now and i aren't very close as we never get to see each other, and i still have feelings for my ex since we had a long (to me) relationship and things were awesome up until the end. i honestly can't remember why we even broke up. what would you guys do? Late Darksyde

If you like Ms. Tennessee, ask her to come to Washington, or go there, but be honest with her. It seems like the ex is using you as a "spare" to fall back on when she dumps her current. If you get back together with the ex, you'll soon remember why you split. Plus, her b/f might be a psycho. Five cents please.

There are typically reasons why ex's are ex's, and we quickly forget that sometimes. Although, I can say that sometimes you have to become ex's to realize what you really had with each other. It's really up to you analyze what happened, but whatever you decide, be honest with the girl that is far away. :)

I don't think she regrets breakin up with you, I think she wants to can the other guy and doesn't want to be alone. I can already see whats gonna happen. You're gonna end up bangin her and then before you know it you're a couple again. The Tennesse broad will be tossed aside, and your ex will have gotten everything she wanted. Girls are twisted and they unconsiously make diabolical little plans in their heads. Don't laugh, it's true. Long distant ships suck. I'd drop them both and ride around town on your bike and scoop up some fresh girlies. Na, don't listen to me. I believe the first few sentences will happen though. Girls hate being alone, not getting any attention. Tough desicion, you can either maintain this long distant thing or fall into your ex's little plan. Does she sound genuine or is kind of joking around about getting back? You need to ask your ex some no B/S questions. Hints aren't solid enough, you need to find out what she means exactly. Good luck yo.

thanks for all your advice guys. this is stressin me out so bad i can't think straight. the girl in tennesee can't move back here because she's got a full ride scholarship to the naval academy when she graduates in may. as far as the ex goes, there's a lot of things she would have to change before i would get back together with her, not things that were necessarily bad, just things that i put up with back then that i know i wouldn't put up with now with the way my life has changed since we broke up. i hate havin crap like this on my mind, especially right now when i'm trying to get my life together to move out on my own. oh and DLITALIEN, as far as finding another girl besides these two, there is another girl that has a major crush on me (hot little asian girl too:D) but she's a little too young. once again thanks for your advice and keep it coming. it's nice to hear other people's opinions as they often think of things you wouldn't. Late Darksyde

Five cents please. is a nickel via snail mail okay? :lol::willy: i'm starting to think that much :beer: is in order..... Late Darksyde

FIRST I NEED TO KNOW HOW OLD YOU ARE AND HOW OLD SHE IS. SECOND-ASIAN GIRLS ARE AWESOME TO AH...HANG OUT WITH :dthumb: !! I WILL DECIDE HOW YOUNG IS TOO YOUNG. YOU'RE IN GOOD HANDS. IF YOU DON'T TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HER CRUSH AND THEN DOWN THE ROAD YOU FIND OUT ONE OF YOUR BUDDIES HIT IT AND SAID SHE WAS THE BEST EVER THAN YOU'LL BE :bas: . YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE. EVERYTHING I HAVE SAID IS VALID IF YOU ARE YOUNGER THAN 24. IT'S VERY IMPORTANT YOU TELL ME EACH OF YOUR AGES SO I CAN CONSULT MY SENIOR ANALYSTS AND GET YOU A BETTER ANSWER. :dthumb:

under 24? check she's under 24? check wait.......not gonna work. anyway, i'm 20 and she's 14 i'm thinkin she's a little too young. i got of sh*t from people when i was with my ex cuz she's 4 years younger than me. so i'm thinkin someone that's 6 years younger (with the age i'm at right now anyway) is too much of a difference. although i know from... uh.... um.... how do i put this...... experience(s) that she likes me as more than a friend. and before you all jump my case for being a cheater... something i forgot to put in my other posts is that the girl in tenn. and i are only *kinda* goin out. a little over a month ago she decided the distance was too much for her so we *kinda* broke up. by *kinda* i mean that she wanted to try the whole dating when she's here in town/just friends when she's in tenn. Late Darksyde

HOLY CRAP!! THAT IS YOUNG!! STAY AWAY BRO. YOU'RE ALMOST 21. A WHOLE NEW BREAD OF GIRLS WILL BE KNOCKIN ON YOUR DOOR! YOU'LL BE FINE. THE ONLY THING I CAN SAY ABOUT OLDER BRAODS IS THAT THERE IS MORE DRAMA. THAT AND YOUR WALLET WILL BE LESS FULL BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO BUY THEM DRINKS. IT'S ALL GOOD YO. IT'S TIME TO START DATING GIRLS THAT ARE SENIORS OR GRADUATED ALREADY. DON'T TAKE OFFENSE, I'M JUST MESSIN WITH YOU. THAT'S THE EAST COAST IN ME. LATERS :cheers:

Okay, first and MOST IMPORTANT, stay far, FAR away from the 14 year old. That's just asking for SERIOUS trouble. Second, you answered your own question about the ex when you said there are things that she would have to change. She WON'T change, at least not permanently. She might change (at least in front of you) for up to 6 months, but she will still be the same way and it will come out sooner or later. Trust me, experience speaking here. Third, if the girl in Tennessee is going into the Naval Academy in May and you won't be near her, you might as well end it now, because it's over. Time to just move on. Dump the ex, even as friends. She's using you. Again, experience speaking. Just get away from all 3 of them and move on, you're wasting your time. :2cents:

I GUARANTEE THAT THE NAVY GIRL IS GETTING BANGED OUT RIGHT NOW. I'VE BEEN IN THE MILITARY FOR 5 YEARS NOW AND IF SHE'S ANY GOOD LOOKING GUYS WILL FLOCK TO HER. ALL I'M SAYIN IS THAT THERE ARE TOO MANY OPTIONS FOR GIRLS IN THE MILITARY. ESPECIALLY IF SHE'S IN HER EARLY 20'S. :2cents: :cheers:

An EX is an Ex, leave it that way...

Do them both - threesome bro.. That would be your best alternative.. lol.. Seriously though you have to ask yourself - which one is hotter? lol.. It could be worse you could be debating which hand to use and have no women.. "You don't have to front on me beotch......." "To the motel, to the hotel to the holiday inn, say what?" "If that beotch starts f'ing up I'll just f*** her friend"

if u evne look at the 14 yos ass ure a cradle robber. As for the ex... keep her that way.. May isnt far away so if u like the current keep her....if u dont really like her that much then dump em both and get a 18+ yo while ridng.. then youll have osmeone u cna enjoy time with. Your YOUNG.. and theres a Shatload of fish in the sea.....hold out(of a relationship, not hitting it) for one worth the commitment.. otherwise F&*( em and just go enjoy life.. dont stress over crap that dont matter.. stress over stuff thats scares ya like fast ridng. Serious girls at 20 are insignificant.. enjoy their "company" but dont stress or worry aobut whos right.. when the real right ones rolls along you'll know it.... she'll give ya the same gleem in your eye your bike did when u first put your key in her....

didnt read the not dating.. yeah shes eating mrarine dong right now man...lol Drop em both. Get osme new fish and swim free man. I dealt with the relationship for almost three years from 18 to 21.....im still 21 but so happy single... Bikes get ya fun times off the bike.. buy a extra helmet.. take girls out and enjoy life man. turn 21 then invest in buying beer... youll have more fun.

I'll insert some estrogen into the thread.... I agree with bits and pieces of what everyone else has said. I'm going to be honest with you. Girls can be manipulative. We accuse guys of being jerks and this and that all the time. Sure, guys can be jerks, but girls can be bitches. IMO, I think it's useless to sit and analyze why your ex is calling you again and complaining about her boyfriend. To me, it's all games. She's 16...c'mon now. Think about it. I remember when I was 16 and I just wanted attention whether is was positive or negative. With that being said, the girl in TN may or may not work out. If you are even considering other options, go ahead and let her go. You'll both be better off in the long run. The 14 year old...I will personally come kick your ass if you even go there. My advice: Let them all go. You're almost 21...the fun is just now beginning. Date all types of women over the next ten to fifteen to twenty to fifty years of your life. Fall in and out of love many times before you settle down. Date women you may not normally consider. Get out there and experiment around. I'm 23 and have yet to have a serious relationship..unless you call serious getting trashed with the same guy for a few months...then when he gets sick of me, moving on to the next and getting trashed with him or whatever we so choose to do. No, I'm not all about drinking, but I'm 23...I'm going to do what I want and I'm going to have fun doing it. So I'm not offering you empty advice. My point of my little rant is you're almost 21... NO LIMITS!!!! In a few months, you'll be speeding around on your bike laughing that this was even a big deal at one time. Trust me!

I THINK I'M IN LOVE! :lol: YOU GOT TO RESPECT A WOMENS OPINION. ESPECIALLY WHEN SHE DOESN'T KNOW YOU AND CAN'T BENEFIT FROM IT AT ALL. YOU KNOW SHE'S TELLING THE TRUTH. ANY GIRL THAT TELLS YOU TO GO OUT AND BANG ALL THE GIRLS YOU WANT IS COOL IN MY BOOK. :dthumb: DON'T GET WORKED UP ABOUT THIS MATTER. DROP THE NAVY SLUT, THE EX SLUT, AND THE 14 YEAR OLD SLUT(SHE'S ONLY 2 YEARS INTO HER TEENS). THERE'S PLENTY OF OTHER SLUTS OUT THERE. :cheers:

thanks for your advice everyone, you all said a lot of things i didn't think of. ok, so let's see 14 y/o- not hanging out with her anymore. she called me again today and with the way she's talking, i can tell she's starting to think the wrong thing about us. she's cool to hang out with and everything, but no girl is worth 2 years in a cell. ex- dunno about that one. i'm 98% sure i'd never get back with her, but it's hard to think about since i do still have feelings for her. i don't know, i guess we'll just see what happens. although i learned my lesson about just jumping into relationships. if she's honestly willing to change i may give her another chance but it would be much different than when we were together before, but i doubt that anything will happen so i'm not too worried about it. *kinda* current g/f- gonna take your advice and end that one completely. i've been contemplating it for sometime but just hadn't made a solid decision. i know that we'll still be friends as we've known each other for just over 3 years, but probably nothing more than that. if it's meant to be, someday it'll happen, but i'm not going to worry about it now. as far as getting out on the bike... i don't have one yet:( anyone want to donate to the "Help Josh get a ZX-6R" fund? gas man? low? zx636r? :lol: just kidding one thing that really sucks is that i live in a small town so most people my age are gone to college and what not and the only thing to do around here is go bowling, go to the movies, or go hang out down at one of the main parking lots downtown. well, bowling and movies both cost money that i don't have, and i've got too many enemies that go down to the lot. so i can't go down there without someone trying to start sh*t with me. just tonight 2 mexicans in a beat up, lowered, mid-80's chevy followed my brother and i around town. we pulled into hastings and went in and they came creeping into the lot as we walked in glaring like there was no tomorrow. then they decided that they were going to park on the other side of the aisle and wait for us to come out! well, i didn't really feel like getting into yet ANOTHER fight (been in 3 in the last month) so i just called my dad (cop) since he was on duty and he came down in his patrol car to make sure they didn't try to follow us back to our house or anything. i'll never understand people. it makes no sense that they kept following us since we didn't do anything to them, and what's more, we've never seen these guys before! anyway, i've now moved on to rambling so i'll shut up now. thanks again for all your advice! Late Darksyde

All of that is blah blah blah... drive to wherever this hott butt chick is and tap that!! There ain't nuttin better than some fresh..... :drool: :D

All of that is blah blah blah... drive to wherever this hott butt chick is and tap that!! There ain't nuttin better than some fresh..... :drool: :D There you guy - advice from a wise man - better yet dump them all and pick up a $20 ho.. Guaranteed you will score bro.. lol.. Just remember before you even consider marriage get knob polishing in the pre-nup and make sure she is damn good at it.. lol..

The rule of thumb is to remember your ex is an ex for a reason. Good luck mang. :cheers:

Also, we need pics to better assess the situation. Thanks in advance.

Also, we need pics to better assess the situation. Thanks in advance. Good point Pig! Very good point! :nopicsbs:

Glad you likey MP!!! Thought you would!!! And yes... we need pics!! Got to see if these women are worth even talking about...

I say forget em both and find a new one!

OK, I started reading the posts and then there was just too much to read. Here you go...you're ONLY 20. Your ex, from what I can tell is 16. She's so young and doesn't have a clue it's rediculous. Like many have said, she just wants a rebound guy and you're an easy pick since you 2 were together. As for Tennessee, never gonna work. She'll eventually leave you if you don't leave her first. You're young and so are the women. Long distance doesn't work, ex's don't work, and 14 years old...........well, you know...doesn't work. Time to be single bro. The Tenn. girls is too far away and I can't see it lasting much longer. As for your ex.....should you decide to go back to her, treat it as a temp. situations because I guarantee it won't last. So, if you want to have fun with the ex, do it but be prepared to lose her eventually. Plus, you're too young to be deal with this. See, right now you're dealing with girls. Not trying to slam them but they are just kids. Women go through so many changes in their early 20's it's rediculous. Heck, so do guys. Your views on everything will slowly begin to change my friend.

You talk about too much reading and you post that!! :screwy: :lol:

I THINK I'M IN LOVE! :lol: YOU GOT TO RESPECT A WOMENS OPINION. ESPECIALLY WHEN SHE DOESN'T KNOW YOU AND CAN'T BENEFIT FROM IT AT ALL. YOU KNOW SHE'S TELLING THE TRUTH. ANY GIRL THAT TELLS YOU TO GO OUT AND BANG ALL THE GIRLS YOU WANT IS COOL IN MY BOOK. :dthumb: DON'T GET WORKED UP ABOUT THIS MATTER. DROP THE NAVY SLUT, THE EX SLUT, AND THE 14 YEAR OLD SLUT(SHE'S ONLY 2 YEARS INTO HER TEENS). THERE'S PLENTY OF OTHER SLUTS OUT THERE. :cheers: Since when did I say bang??? :skep: I said date :lol: but you're right....date, bang, whatever works for him!!! :lol:

I'd have a coupla beers and forget them both...Men are the minority in the world now...at your age, there are too many you haven't met yet, Move on...when you have met the right one...she will tell you