Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Dixon, Illinois
hey ladies advice please!
Hey ladies first off let me appologize for barging in on the "ladies" section. I know there are guys that speak up in here but don't know how people feel about guys starting threads here, but I really wanted to get all your perspectives on the subject. Ok so heres the story. Me and my girl dated for about 5 years, she wants to have kids and I always said I didn't. We broke up about 2 months ago because she decided that if we wanted diffrent things 5 years was enough time to waste on a relationship that has no future. since then I have realized that the whole not wanting to have kids thing was just me being stubborn. I once mentioned to my mom that I didnt think I wanted kids and she said "oh you gotta have kids" well me being the bull headed moran I can be sometimes decided that no one was gonna tell me that I should have kids. Well the more people who told me I needed kids the more I decided that I wasn't gonna have them. Anyway now shes not my girl anymore and I realized that my life don't make sense with out her. I love her more than life its self and I want her back... not just for as my girlfriend but I want her with me for ever. so this coming saturday Im going to propose to her. We still talk nearly everyday and her friends tell me there is NO WAY she would EVER in a millon years say no. so anyway thats just a little background on us. My plan right now is to swing by and pick her up this sat. around 6 or so and go to our favorite spot where we used to go to watch the stars and stuff, Im just gonna put on some music and sit and talk to her while the sun sets. Then I want to explaine to her that I have been being stubborn and apologize to her for acting like such and ass for the past 4 years. Then when "our" song comes on im going to ask her to dance with me in the bed of my truck. While we are dancing I plan to tell her that all I want is to be with her and give her everything in life she wants including a family. Then you know the whole one knee routine. lol after she HOPEFULLY says yes I have her closest girlfriends and my good friends coming into town and waiting at a bar I rented out. so afterwords Im gonna run her over there so she can be with the people she cares about and would want to share it with her. Keeping in mind that we are both pretty much red necks, so the dancing in the bed of the truck thing isn't quite as corny to us as it might seem to others, what do you think of my plan. I really want it to be special for her and show her how much I really care about her. Is there anything that you think I should do diffrently or what ever. I know its not gonna go exactly as scripted but thats the basic plan. So any advice would be great. Other than "don't do it man!" lol Ive been on of the biggest anti marriage guys for a long time but thats because I have been lying to myself about how much I love her. I tried to convince myself I didn't need her but now that shes gone I know thats not true. I have no motivation to do anything anymore. If shes not with me I have nothing left to work for. I can't focus at work, I have no motivation to work on the house or anything. Shes everything to me and I CANNOT lose her not matter what. anyway let me know what you guys think.
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