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post #1 of 73 (permalink) Old 03-18-2007, 10:45 PM Thread Starter
 
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hey ladies advice please!

Hey ladies first off let me appologize for barging in on the "ladies" section. I know there are guys that speak up in here but don't know how people feel about guys starting threads here, but I really wanted to get all your perspectives on the subject. Ok so heres the story. Me and my girl dated for about 5 years, she wants to have kids and I always said I didn't. We broke up about 2 months ago because she decided that if we wanted diffrent things 5 years was enough time to waste on a relationship that has no future. since then I have realized that the whole not wanting to have kids thing was just me being stubborn. I once mentioned to my mom that I didnt think I wanted kids and she said "oh you gotta have kids" well me being the bull headed moran I can be sometimes decided that no one was gonna tell me that I should have kids. Well the more people who told me I needed kids the more I decided that I wasn't gonna have them. Anyway now shes not my girl anymore and I realized that my life don't make sense with out her. I love her more than life its self and I want her back... not just for as my girlfriend but I want her with me for ever. so this coming saturday Im going to propose to her. We still talk nearly everyday and her friends tell me there is NO WAY she would EVER in a millon years say no. so anyway thats just a little background on us. My plan right now is to swing by and pick her up this sat. around 6 or so and go to our favorite spot where we used to go to watch the stars and stuff, Im just gonna put on some music and sit and talk to her while the sun sets. Then I want to explaine to her that I have been being stubborn and apologize to her for acting like such and ass for the past 4 years. Then when "our" song comes on im going to ask her to dance with me in the bed of my truck. While we are dancing I plan to tell her that all I want is to be with her and give her everything in life she wants including a family. Then you know the whole one knee routine. lol after she HOPEFULLY says yes I have her closest girlfriends and my good friends coming into town and waiting at a bar I rented out. so afterwords Im gonna run her over there so she can be with the people she cares about and would want to share it with her. Keeping in mind that we are both pretty much red necks, so the dancing in the bed of the truck thing isn't quite as corny to us as it might seem to others, what do you think of my plan. I really want it to be special for her and show her how much I really care about her. Is there anything that you think I should do diffrently or what ever. I know its not gonna go exactly as scripted but thats the basic plan. So any advice would be great. Other than "don't do it man!" lol Ive been on of the biggest anti marriage guys for a long time but thats because I have been lying to myself about how much I love her. I tried to convince myself I didn't need her but now that shes gone I know thats not true. I have no motivation to do anything anymore. If shes not with me I have nothing left to work for. I can't focus at work, I have no motivation to work on the house or anything. Shes everything to me and I CANNOT lose her not matter what. anyway let me know what you guys think.
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Paragraphs brother. Paragraphs.



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Paragraphs brother. Paragraphs.
c'mon marko the guys pouring his heart out, and all you have to offer is grammar advice?
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I am not a chick, but I gotta admit... Reading this put a little smile on my face...

If you guys talk every day and you can call her up and go out whenever you like... You really aren't broken up... Sounds like you guys just taking a short pause... And if you are sure about your feelings... IE not just sick of punchin' your clown, then go for it. Your plan is money. The only part I would change is the rented out bar because you are gonna get mad skins in the back of your truck immediately... Of course, I guess then you can go to the bar... Surely though, it sounds like it will be just what it should be... a great story to tell your grandkids...
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I am not a chick, but I gotta admit... Reading this put a little smile on my face...

If you guys talk every day and you can call her up and go out whenever you like... You really aren't broken up... Sounds like you guys just taking a short pause... And if you are sure about your feelings... IE not just sick of punchin' your clown, then go for it. Your plan is money. The only part I would change is the rented out bar because you are gonna get mad skins in the back of your truck immediately... Of course, I guess then you can go to the bar... Surely though, it sounds like it will be just what it should be... a great story to tell your grandkids...

this is a good point OSP. make sure you're thinking w/ your head and not with your other head. Many a time somebody's gotten out of a relationship and the absence of sex can lead them to do silly things.

worst part is you really wont know unless you are VERY honest with yourself. and thats hard to do as you obviously have some love pangs goin on. hard **** to deal with, i know. The girl i was gonna pop the question to is havin some other guys baby this may. i've been so f*cked up about it but the one benefit is you can see other people making the same mistakes and try to straighten them out.

man, your plan sounds bullet proof tho!
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this is a good point OSP. make sure you're thinking w/ your head and not with your other head. Many a time somebody's gotten out of a relationship and the absence of sex can lead them to do silly things.

worst part is you really wont know unless you are VERY honest with yourself. and thats hard to do as you obviously have some love pangs goin on. hard **** to deal with, i know. The girl i was gonna pop the question to is havin some other guys baby this may. i've been so f*cked up about it but the one benefit is you can see other people making the same mistakes and try to straighten them out.

man, your plan sounds bullet proof tho!
Going out and laying more pipe than a 7-handed plumber helps... Especially if you can score one of her friends... You know the one you thought about every once in a while when you were buttering your GF's loaf... It doesn't fix it 100%, but it's one step in the healing process...

So I am really surprised non of the ladies have chimed in... In my experience asking a woman for love/sex advice is like showing a starved wolf a skinned rabbit...

Let's go ladies!
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Don't sweat the parenthood thing. I never wanted kids either, but I married my wife just the same. She said she didn't either for a while, but that was probably . Eventually she was ready and was pretty damn adamant about it. We had a son and it took me a while to come around on the whole dad thing. Now I have two boys (2 and 4), and I wouldn't trade them for the world. I still don't like kids much, but I love mine.
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Thanks guys! Trust me I thought about the sex thing. meaning maybe I was just feeling this way because I missed the sex...which by the way is better than I could put into words!! LOL but the thing is..... I could get it. In fact Ive had SEVERAL offers..... not that Im like "the man" or anything. I have at least three girls I know I could call right now and be "buttering their loaves" (lol thats a good one) with in the hour. I fact is I don't want to. Ive thought about it and even tried to talk myself into it but I just don't care. I also thought about the "mad skins" in the back of the truck. (lol you guys are full of them) I also factored in some time for that. not that it will happen for sure but if there is the chance Im sure not gonna pass it up. sun should be setting around 7:15 or so and I told the people I would have her to the bar by around 8-830 which should give me about and hour or so. I figure since its been about 2 months that should be plenty of time. lol anyway thanks again guys keep the suggestions coming. hopefully the ladies will speak up soon to.
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Paragraphs brother. Paragraphs.
lol yeah I know grammer was NEVER my strong point. sorry hope it didn't give you all too bad of a headache!!!
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lol yeah I know grammer was NEVER my strong point. sorry hope it didn't give you all too bad of a headache!!!
I'm just bustin balls here. Carry on.



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Dude, buy a Xbox 360. You'll forget about her in no time. Thanks for the laughs. Let's work on paragraphs. this Saturday. From the sound of it, I don't think you'll need it.
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As a voice of dissention: Dont propose. Buy another motorcycle.



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As a voice of dissention: Dont propose. Buy another motorcycle.
LOL yeah I thought about that. The problem was the bike shop couldn't get me approved for a new bike. The jewler could however get me financing on a ring. Go figure! Everyone knows bikes are much more useful than rings, but oh well.
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LOL yeah I thought about that. The problem was the bike shop couldn't get me approved for a new bike. The jewler could however get me financing on a ring. Go figure! Everyone knows bikes are much more useful than rings, but oh well.
Well at least you tried.



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Dude, buy a Xbox 360. You'll forget about her in no time.
LOL I got one and don't think my thumbs aren't raw from playing over the last month.... I MEAN PLAYING THE 360!!! I know what you perverts were thinking. LOL J/K
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mmmmm, cordless vibration...

how much the ring set you back?
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Good luck bro... I hope things work out for ya...
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okay, here's the first advice from a lady. make DAMN sure you are serious about having kids. bearing children is serious for us ladies, so if you are all on the fence about that decision, please do not go through with this. creating a life is nothing to take lightly. it is a lot of work and involves both people, so don't just agree because you are a little lonely (not that i am at all saying this is your reason). i just want you to know how serious this is to us ladies. be sure you are doing this for the right reasons and you will not back out down the road when pressured. make sure you are on the same page and want the same things in life, otherwise it isn't fair for either of you.

as long as you have come to terms with what i have stated above and are sure this is the right decision for you, then i say go for it! it sounds like you both really want to be together and are made for eachother. good luck!

one more word of advice...it is rare for a girl to say no to a diamond, but sometimes it does happen. just remember...the bigger the rock the better your chances. (i speak from experience)
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