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post #1 of 65 (permalink) Old 06-07-2006, 04:47 PM Thread Starter
 
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Just broke up with my lady after 5+ yrs... HELP?!

The subject line pretty much says it all... I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions for getting over a painful ass brake up with someone who was so close to you for over 5 years... My buddies are taking me out to do the whole alcoholic routine... and try and drink it away... they may also try and set me up with some women... who knows...

anyone got any tips or suggestions? I know you all are real creative... I'm expecting a lot from DLITALIEN... probably something scary
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post #2 of 65 (permalink) Old 06-07-2006, 04:59 PM
 
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My suggestion is not to stay home and dwell. Go out to bike night at Hooters and stuff. I'd proly just ride a lot. Or find some nice girl and get knee deep in her guts. Or both. If i didn't have to leave work right now, i'd come up with some good stuff. Maybe later, when I'm at home. What happened? Who's fault was it? Go out and drink booze. Cry if you have to. Don't try to date broads right away. Just smash a few out though.
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Ouch, go have fun, dont date too soon and def dont get in a relationship for awhile!!!
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Get a rebound chick but just for fun, no relationship BS. You don't need that right now. Give us a little back story if it isn't too hard for you.

I have never had a problem after a relationship ended. Mostly because I have ended all of them except 1 and usually am so mad that I don't care if I ever see them again. Plus I am a cold hearted [email protected], so that helps.

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Buy yourself a hot Italian bike and you'll discover that you will have no time to dwell on lesser beings such as women.
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tequila shots and lots of them
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HAhaha... that was quick guys. I was considering deleting the thread entirely but anyway. I might as well give some backstory, that way you can all call me a moron First off though, thanks for all the suggestions, and I agree, no dating anytime soon.

I fell in love with this girl when I was 17 (right there you all go, "first problem") hehe... she was my best friend since like middle school (yet again, "second problem"), she lives in my neighborhood .8 miles away... 2 twisty's down. ("third issue" right?). Anyway. Its the usual high school sweetheart bull****. We dated junior and senior year and then she went off to college (Boston college, 1631 miles away from Miami... sick that I know the mileage but google maps is just so accurate). The first year wasn't bad everything was kosher... then the bull**** started happening around year 2, and slowly her friends were more important than I was every month she stayed up there (coming down for breaks, hollidays, and summer), and it got worse and worse...

so finally, she graduates school and comes home.. and in my mind, "I did my time" like a convict, I waited 4 years for this girls arrival, and when she got home she was sad about school being over, but she wasn't acting like we were even together... to get a kiss out of her was next to impossible, and to sleep with her took a night of drinking to "set the mood" (no I didn't drug her, she was conscious, and she didn't puke)... but I still felt like a rapist because the only way I could get any affection out of her was under the influence of alcohol... so I let this go on for about a week... I voiced my thoughts to her. She cried... I told her she had to prove herself to me. She cried... I told her I would give her some time. She cried... And so another week went by... still no progress... It was like being in a monogamous friendship with someone I can't makeout with or sleep with. I voice my thoughts once more... give her more time.... another week goes by.... by now I've tried everything to make her comfortable in the relationship again... movies, dinner, lunch, breakfast in bed... all that noise. Then today I finally couldn't take it anymore, and I brought up some more junk that was bothering her, and begged her for some honesty... and I finally said "I can't be with you". She ran up stairs. Cried. I went up to try and tell her some things, to no avail. "Please leave" I did... and then its been about 3 lengthy emails from her telling me what an ******* I am, and all this hatred stuff... and breaking me down and all that noise... and now I'm here... not hungry, but going to eat dinner anyway. Then I'm going out with my boy... and this fine female friend of his who last time we went out was quoted saying "I'd hit that", in reference to me! So, as long as I get to flirt with her this evening and try and keep my mind off all this mess I should be alright for at least a bit.

To top everything off... I also was on my way home from school in my car, and got pulled over on the turnpike because I got cut off by a dump truck who dumped all these pebbles on my hood and windshield... so I sped around him cut him off, flicked him off, and sure enough a trooper pulled a u-turn. I had an old envelope in my car with old insurance card, old registration, so I got nailed with 3 tickets. One for doing 80 in a 60 ("I'm being nice, you were actually doing 90) and the rest for the obvious. Needless to say, I have run out of nerves today... and I have homework to do, but I don't even feel like going to class tomorrow. This rant is getting lengthy so I'll drop it here.

lemme try some individual responses to your replies:

DLIT, I'm definitely going boozing... though I have an appointment at the DMV tomorrow afternoon so they can stamp "...and motorcycles" on my license. and the split was not my fault... and I'm working on the knee deep in guts part... though I now have to buy condoms. (Haven't used one in 4 years.... I was on yasmin )

Rae, I won't be dating for a while thats for sure... I got my boy making sure of that because I'm somewhat of a serial monogamer (sp?) But I will be looking at your contest photos.... (tell the hubby I'm sorry... but I need it right now )

Vol I wish I were strong enough to be so cold... but its not in my blood... I'm working on the rebound chick as previously stated.

Fnfalman I wish I could afford an italian bike right now, but I don't think riding it under the influence of strong emotions would help anything... good idea though... that and I might get burned tryna stick it in the back of a fine italian beauty

Cb1 I might finish off my bottle of Cabo Wabo I got in my bait fridge in the garage... nothing like tequilla that smells like fish

Back_Marker www.pornorip.net has been my best friend since its inception... it also kept me loyal... pr0n is my friend...

Thanks everyone... I'll keep you posted if anything changed. Thanks for the kind words and love!
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Wow...I don't know what to tell you man. It's just sounds like one of those days. You need a fine young lady between your legs to get your mind off of things. I am talking about the metallic kind, you need to get you a bike, but make sure you don't ride stupid when you got that much on your mind. Just take it easy.

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Being single in miami... damn lucky bastard

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Hehehe... if its anything I love, its the eye candy here... the problem is... I could talk to my girl... and those are few and far between. Thoughts of starting a porno site (not to be in them, but definitely to do the castings) come to mind...

Vol don't worry about it... I only have about $1k saved up for a down, and I want to at least double that before the bike purchase... also got another 6 months left in school... so... I'm eager, but I'm being smart about it... and if I had a bike.. I would definitely not ride it today.

'Preciate the words everyone... I'll try and get some digi pics to add to the gallery of some "conquests"
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post #12 of 65 (permalink) Old 06-07-2006, 09:04 PM
 
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are you sure she was undyingly faithful to you? could she have been witholding affection out of guilt from something she has done? at any rate, love shouldn't hafta be forced. if you had to convince her to be affectionate, then she doesn't deserve you. find someone that will benefit from the love you have to share. that is hard to find only because it is the best discovery you can make. if it were too easy to come by you wouldn't appreciate it near as much. you're gonna be just fine.
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I say, go out, get drunk, find you a hot piece, take her home, and wake up with a kool aid smile on your face. I've been there and it's not worth the headache of dwelling on the past or the what if's. My wife and I have been a couple since 92 and married since 01. The chic I was with before her, I thought was the one but I was wrong. My point is, although your break-up is painful and you invested alot of time into the relationship, if it is meant to be then it will.
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My suggestion is not to stay home and dwell. Go out to bike night at Hooters and stuff. I'd proly just ride a lot. Or find some nice girl and get knee deep in her guts. Or both. If i didn't have to leave work right now, i'd come up with some good stuff. Maybe later, when I'm at home. What happened? Who's fault was it? Go out and drink booze. Cry if you have to. Don't try to date broads right away. Just smash a few out though.
it sucks to be in your position right now but once you start taking advantage of your new freedoms...well I'll just leave it at that, you'll see what I mean. You'll be fine, just give it some time(and booze and girls). I'll be waiting for those "conquest" pics
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post #15 of 65 (permalink) Old 06-07-2006, 10:54 PM
 
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sounds kinda like a problem i had a bit back. thats y i love having a bike, you can come home smelling like another bike and it wont get pissed off, you can ride it all night long and it wont complain, it can pick up hot a** chicks and not to many gf will do that for you. well good luck and go find some hot chick that will do things to you that your old one wouldnt, even if you have to spend a few bucks or two
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Buy yourself a hot Italian bike and you'll discover that you will have no time to dwell on lesser beings such as women.
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sounds like you needed to end it anyways.

RIDE a lot... drink a bit but dont get in trouble with it. When i first got my 1000 i never saw my G/f anymore.... now noone can bitch aobut not seeing em.. you can love the true beauty..your girl bike..lol Love it, ride it, and learn on it, get better... Now that i got married its severly cut into my riding time.. I'd LOVe the chance to get to ride as much as i used to.




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I ended my last relationship by accepting a job 600 miles away. I waited a little over a year before I found another chick....which it's not official that we're dating, but I like it that way....I still get all the benefits and I don't see her but a few times a week, she doesn't call me hardly at all so it's all good. I love being single and having a lady friend with the side action to have fun with.
I would go on and on....but I don't have the time right now.
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I'm logged on right now, but I'll wait until tomorrow yo red the replies and reply myself.m I'm drunk.
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you suck, i hate gettign drunk alone so i cant drink tonight....oh well, maybe tomorrow
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