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post #1 of 91 (permalink) Old 10-03-2006, 12:32 PM Thread Starter
 
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Is it cheating.... ?

So here's this week's controversial, deep and meaningful discussion thread.

A thread on another forum, as well as a post in 1Bad's thread got me to thinking....

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Exactly. If it was a dream, then it sounds like someone has a guilty conscience.
The thread on another forum asks "If you think about someone other than your S.O. (i.e. an ex) while you (spend quality time with yourself), is it cheating?"

Here's my take: Fantasy (and dreams) are just that -- fantasy. Fabrications of the mind that we can't 100% control. I'm sure many of us have fantasized about things/people we'd never DREAM of doing (even given the opportunity) in real life. But in the privacy of our own minds, it's safe, there's no repercussions, and it's an outlet for those things we CAN'T act out for real.

Assuming the relationship with the S.O. is healthy and happy, and the fantasies aren't interfering with intimacy with that person/it hasn't become obsessive, then I don't think the occasional mind-fling with someone other than them (be it Jenna Jameson or the guy at the Dry Cleaners) is a big deal.

Ok, discuss amongst yourselves....
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i agree it is when you go outside of the "mind" and try to act on those thoughts that it becomes unhealthy towards the relationship..
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Would be considered excessive if I glued a picture of Jenna Jamison's face to my girfriend's head before I hit it?
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Would be considered excessive if I glued a picture of Jenna Jamison's face to my girfriend's head before I hit it?
Umm... depends.. as long as she KNOWS, and is game for it as kind of a role-playing thing, then nah.
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Umm... depends.. as long as she KNOWS, and is game for it as kind of a role-playing thing, then nah.
So sticking it to the back of her head without her knowledge is unacceptable? I don't like all these rules...
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So sticking it to the back of her head without her knowledge is unacceptable? I don't like all these rules...
Hey, ask her! I'm totally fine with you sticking a photo of Jenna's face to the back of your GF's head.... (but be polite, and don't use duct tape, or something that'll pull TOO many hairs out when you yank it off )
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Hey, ask her! I'm totally fine with you sticking a photo of Jenna's face to the back of your GF's head.... (but be polite, and don't use duct tape, or something that'll pull TOO many hairs out when you yank it off )
Oh, I'm sure that would be a fun conversation...
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So sticking it to the back of her head without her knowledge is unacceptable? I don't like all these rules...
Just do her while her face is buried in a pillow while watching a Jenna movie. Seems ok to me.
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Just do her while her face is buried in a pillow while watching a Jenna movie. Seems ok to me.
Sounds like you speak from experience....
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Sounds like you speak from experience....
Nope my wife wont let me watch those movies.
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Just do her while her face is buried in a pillow while watching a Jenna movie. Seems ok to me.
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Sounds like you speak from experience....
Speaking from experience... It's BAAAAAAAAAADDDDDD to get caught changing the channel during sex... Very bad...
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Nope my wife wont let me watch those movies.
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Speaking from experience... It's BAAAAAAAAAADDDDDD to get caught changing the channel during sex... Very bad...
Well dammit, if you change it right when they're getting to the end of the "48 Hours Mystery" how can you blame her for getting upset? She'll have to wait till they repeat it to find out whodunnit!
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Speaking from experience... It's BAAAAAAAAAADDDDDD to get caught changing the channel during sex... Very bad...
Unless you turn it to Greys Anatomy right. Then she would be ok with channel surfing.
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Unless you turn it to Greys Anatomy right. Then she would be ok with channel surfing.
See, around our house, it'd be idea to just put on Speed Channel.... races for him, Nicky Hayden for me!
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I refuse to answer the question or take part in any kind of discussion on the grounds that my wife might someday read the post.
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I have a question to you gals. Do you fantasize about another guy when doing your current guy? I know I do math equations while doing the wife to keep from prematurely ejaculating. After she gets hers, then it's fantasy time for me.

So my answer is, no... ain't cheating, just making the passion last longer.

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I refuse to answer the question or take part in any kind of discussion on the grounds that my wife might someday read the post.
Good idea... My girlfriend can't read so it's all good...

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I have a question to you gals. Do you fantasize about another guy when doing your current guy? I know I do math equations while doing the wife to keep from prematurely ejaculating. After she gets hers, then it's fantasy time for me.

So my answer is, no... ain't cheating, just making the passion last longer.

-a|ex


I don't do math, but a lot of times I plan my next day or recap the day I just had... then I think about all the cleavage and whatnot I saw that day... Or the day before...
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I refuse to answer the question or take part in any kind of discussion on the grounds that my wife might someday read the post.
You can't be blamed for expressing an opinion!! Sheesh!! Just state it all as hypothetical, and not factual.
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I have a question to you gals. Do you fantasize about another guy when doing your current guy? I know I do math equations while doing the wife to keep from prematurely ejaculating. After she gets hers, then it's fantasy time for me.

So my answer is, no... ain't cheating, just making the passion last longer.

-a|ex
Ah, fantasizing while intimate with your S.O. is totally different than fantasy while you're alone. I mean, sure, the mind wanders from time to time, but overall, no, I don't tend to fantasize DURING sex at all, but rather just stay focused on the moment.
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