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Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?


(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)


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Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?


(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)


Thanks.
of course you should help them out as much as you can. If you can't do it financially then you need to help them out with the things that they can't do becaues of their age or health...

now in some cases I don't think that you should help them too much.. I had a friend that once he turned 18 his father who was always out of work due to a supposed "back inury" started to charge him rent to live at home still.. well then he started to charge him more and more and then made him pay most of the utility bills too.. then his father's insurance company and his doctors stopped his dad from getting any more workmans comp and he made his son pay all the bills... I told him to say screw you and move out.. he recently moved out and is paying half of what he was when he was living with his dad... his dad then had to go out and start to work again...

so in closing if they are not trying to abuse the help you can give them then help your parents... remember when you were little who took care of you when you were sick and hurt...

also think about when you are older and can't take care of yourself... wouldn't you want your kids to help you...
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Morally, your family. Families should stick together in tuff times. Most prosperous families from the past have lived as one and helped each other prosper as a whole family unit. Today, we strike out on our own with those same big dreams of making it. As individuals, we sometimes fail and aren't any better off than our parents financially. If your are lucky enough to have found your place in the world and established yourself. I would help any way I could if they were unable to help themselves. If they are capable and just don't work. I wouldn't let them go hungry or solely support them just because they are lazy. On the other hand, If I was able to support them without hurting myself. I would. I guess it all comes down to your values.

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Depends on what they are doing. If they are buying toys when they shouldn't or going out and partying their butts off on vacation and such nonsense. Cut them off. Let them learn you aren't a source of money to be abused. If it is running up the bills with medical issues or something similar, of course you should help them out.

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Kinda what I was wondering....

That said, I don't think we OWE our parents. When people choose to have a family, they (in theory, anyway) do so because they want to, without expectation of what they can get out of their offspring down the road.

But, as others have said, it is family, and therefore if someone is in need, and someone else in the family has the means to help them, then by all means, they should. Not because they OWE them, but because it's what you should do for people you love and care about.
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Kinda what I was wondering....

That said, I don't think we OWE our parents. When people choose to have a family, they (in theory, anyway) do so because they want to, without expectation of what they can get out of their offspring down the road.

But, as others have said, it is family, and therefore if someone is in need, and someone else in the family has the means to help them, then by all means, they should. Not because they OWE them, but because it's what you should do for people you love and care about.
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I have a feeling I'll be helping my parents financially in the near future. Right now, I don't have the means to do so, but I foresee them needing financial help soon.
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so in closing if they are not trying to abuse the help you can give them then help your parents... remember when you were little who took care of you when you were sick and hurt...

also think about when you are older and can't take care of yourself... wouldn't you want your kids to help you...
this is my school of thought too. after 18 years of feeding and housing me, the last 10 of which have been my mom doing everything herself, I sure as hell owe her something. if you're helping to make ends meet for your parents, thats the kind of thing that matters. if they're sitting home on their bum doing nothing while you pay all their bills, thats different, or you're a bit numb.
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