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post #1 of 29 (permalink) Old 06-11-2005, 04:27 AM Thread Starter
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What would you do?

Well, it is 315am on Saturday morning and my friend wanted me to go out with him tonight. I said no cause Um, well I knew what was going to happen. He just called me at 315am asking me for a "favor". This favor was to borrow my apartment so that he could have sex with this girl that he just met at a dance or strip club, I didn't ask. I told him no cause well, I have my reasons. Now he's pissed at me cause I wouldn't let him get it with some strange girl he just met.

Oh wait, I forgot to mention what would you do in this situation? Key ingredient in the decision making process: he's married with an 18month old baby boy!

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post #2 of 29 (permalink) Old 06-11-2005, 07:20 AM
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no and I would probably call his wife and ask if he was there...when she said no, I would ask where he is...and if she knows where he is and what he's doing. Your friend is scum...you did the right thing
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i think you did the right thing but i dont know if i would call his wife. if he is your friend he wouldnt get pissed because you dont want any part of that.
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I would not, and trust that being a "friend", he won't be pissed after he cools down.



Unless, he does it for you....
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Drop him. Sometimes you have to cut dead weight. If he was a friend that cared at all about others than himself (proof in the adultery) hed understand you and move find another room. Tell him to get a hotel like all the other trash. Unless this is behavior you want to be around.

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I don't think it's your place to call his wife, but you can't promote that behavior by lending your place.
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I think you must re-define who you call your friends. That is just scummy and wrong. You are totally in the right! DO NOT promote that type of behavior.

But don't second guess yourself on that one. You got your crap straight there! You could have offered for him to drop this "hott chick" off and take here for test drive!

J/K I know you're emotionally attached right now!




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Everyone has a good point, don't promote that activity. I no longer would even think of it (well, maybe for PhoenixGirlie, but who wouldn't?...j/k ). Signs of growing up, maybe?
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A "friend" who calls at 3:15am better be bringing you a girl, not cheating on his wife. He just wanted to be at your house so he could tell his wife "I was at Grafixx's house at 3am". You did the right thing.
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Drop him. Sometimes you have to cut dead weight. If he was a friend that cared at all about others than himself (proof in the adultery) hed understand you and move find another room. Tell him to get a hotel like all the other trash. Unless this is behavior you want to be around.
But I WOULD call his wife. I know if I were married I'd want to know if my husband was cheating.
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Hell no!

He wants to put your place out there? What if this girl flips? She'd be looking for your 'friend' at your place, causing you drama you don't need. If your 'friend' wants to get it on with her that bad, they have motels for that.

If he was your 'friend' he wouldn't be involving you at 3AM. If you were out with him and he was buying you drinks... maybe... but nah!

Friends don't bring drama your way unnecessarily. On the flip side, scummy or not, as a friend I wouldn't call his wife. Now, if you're friends with the wife...
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in the words of the great jeff foxworthy"if he was a real friend, he would be sitting in jail next to you saying she didnt look like no dman cop" you did the right thing, not to make the call to the wife, but its still shotty, of him



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Yep tell him to get a cheap motel for that type of stuff! Talk to him about it when he's sober!

Also, Pgirl, what you aren't understanding is something of a guy code. We just don't do that!




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Yep tell him to get a cheap motel for that type of stuff! Talk to him about it when he's sober!

Also, Pgirl, what you aren't understanding is something of a guy code. We just don't do that!
And that my friend is why so many marriages end in divorce.

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And that my friend is why so many marriages end in divorce.

NO!! Too many marriages end up in divorce for a cariety of reasons... my top few would be this.

*Too many people settle for a person that really isn't suited to them. They think that either "this is the best I can do" or "that regular fighting is normal, that's the way my parents were!".

*People think of divorce, now a days, as no big deal. There is no longer any tabu on it, so they just don't take divorce or the marriage seroius enough.

*People, and this is for any relationship, take too many things WAY too serious! If I'm play flirting with a girl I know, my wife doesn't get all bietchy. She knows I mean no harm and I'm not going to do anything about it. That is just one example. Here's another one... a good friend of mine will hang out with my wife at times and will also keep a eye out for her... do I sweat it...NO! I know, trust, and love my wife and don't have to worry about that crap!

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Yep tell him to get a cheap motel for that type of stuff! Talk to him about it when he's sober!

Also, Pgirl, what you aren't understanding is something of a guy code. We just don't do that!

I do understand the guy code...what I don't understand is bringing home gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes or worse, AIDS to an innocent partner because one person wants to bang some strange he/she picked up in a bar. How would you feel If you found out your friend infected his wife with aids from some stranger he was humping at your house??
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No I agree with and see that point. I would never tell on another guy. I may however, show the wife the light switch. If you know what I mean...




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I do understand the guy code...what I don't understand is bringing home gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes or worse, AIDS to an innocent partner because one person wants to bang some strange he/she picked up in a bar. How would you feel If you found out your friend infected his wife with aids from some stranger he was humping at your house??

Excellent point.
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I do understand the guy code...what I don't understand is bringing home gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes or worse, AIDS to an innocent partner because one person wants to bang some strange he/she picked up in a bar. How would you feel If you found out your friend infected his wife with aids from some stranger he was humping at your house??
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I wouldnt run and tell the wife, but if she comes to me with questions... i wouldnt lie. All depebnds how well you know wifey i suppose. If shes become a valued friend then yes i will look out for her intrests. cause hey, shes not calling you at the a$$ crack of dawn wanting to screw random guys at your place.

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