Personally I've never worn/owned a men's jacket, just because I don't like the way they fit. Gear requires two things to be effective: 1. That you wear it, and 2. That is fits your body right.
I have had excellent luck with Joe Rocket and Power Trip gear, both in leather and mesh. One of the main reasons men's jackets won't ever fit me right is that I am ... er... chesty. And Joe Rocket gear is cut accordingly.
However, since you have a petite build, and are smaller in the chest, Alpinestars will fit you PERFECTLY. It tends to run smaller, it fits close to the body, and it doesn't have room for ...er... ample bosoms. It's also top-notch in terms of quality and protection.
And I agree that AGV makes some superior gear as well. Haven't tried any of it myself, but friends who are track junkies sing its praises often.
And Alpinestars, AGV and also Teknic are all cleaner/more classic in their styling than, let's say, Icon.
Hit up every dealership and cycle shop in town, and try on everything you can get your hands on. Once you've determined which brands you like and that fit you the best, you can set about price-shopping online (New Enough is excellent, as is tricktape.com )