since most of us are married (or considering it), i was wondering what it is/was like for you fellas when you proposed to your ladies. i asked my husband what it felt like but didn't get a satisfactory answer (he's not good expressing his feelings). i know what it is like to be proposed to: the excitement and surprise of it all. what is it like to know you are gonna do it, and shop for the ring etc.? were you stressed, anxious, unusually giddy? how did you know she was the one? i would love to hear your comments...
fellas...what's it like to propose?
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Ok... so I was shopping for the rings at my then future-mother-in-law's store where she also sold jewerly. I was talking the manager about how much he could get me off a ring... so we started looking and offered me this great deal... so then I started to freak out... the mother in law says its a good deal and she was really excited. I knew I was going to get one just not that exact day... then when I realized I was actually doing this... I was way freaked out.
So my mother in law and her husband (not my wife's father) all went out to eat. To calm me down and everything...
Then when it came to the actual proposal. It was x-mas eve when I was doing this. I planned it with my mother in law and invited my parents and brother all over to her mom's x-mas eve party. But I was startin to sweat it.... so the mother in law told her brother... I was outside getting "some air" and he came outside, congradulated me and talked to me.
So I went in and told me little story and then got down on one knee in front of all of our families.
We loved it and have been happilied married for nearly 3 years making us together as a couple for nearly 6 years!
So my mother in law and her husband (not my wife's father) all went out to eat. To calm me down and everything...
Then when it came to the actual proposal. It was x-mas eve when I was doing this. I planned it with my mother in law and invited my parents and brother all over to her mom's x-mas eve party. But I was startin to sweat it.... so the mother in law told her brother... I was outside getting "some air" and he came outside, congradulated me and talked to me.
So I went in and told me little story and then got down on one knee in front of all of our families.
We loved it and have been happilied married for nearly 3 years making us together as a couple for nearly 6 years!
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Think of what would go through your mind and what you would feel if you had to do this, then take away everything you thought of and that is what men are thinking/feeling when they do this.
LOL..JK
I guess I am more nervous about getting the blessing from her dad then the actual proposal. I don't really feel anything about it because I don't really have any doubts or worries about it. Shopping for the ring makes me a little jealous because I am a little cheap. I want something materialistic (not some bs answer about getting her for life
) that costs 3 months of my salary in return LOL. If that bs answer works for some people, so should a 25 cent ring from a KMart gumball machine if you "truly" love the guy. LOL!!!!
LOL..JK
I guess I am more nervous about getting the blessing from her dad then the actual proposal. I don't really feel anything about it because I don't really have any doubts or worries about it. Shopping for the ring makes me a little jealous because I am a little cheap. I want something materialistic (not some bs answer about getting her for life
) that costs 3 months of my salary in return LOL. If that bs answer works for some people, so should a 25 cent ring from a KMart gumball machine if you "truly" love the guy. LOL!!!!mine was uneventful for me, kinda of a slip of the tongue. I always knew i was going to marry her, she didnt know i knew yet (though she knew herself too...anywhoo), and since it was old news to me, it kinda slipped in conversation and WALLA there it was. We were both broke, she was in debt, we did not have her parents blessing, but it was perfect. We were so poor that my ring cost $10.00 and hers cost $15.00. I still wear the $10.00 ring but hers is much $$$$$$nicer$$$$$$$ now.
same way i was. i was more scared of asking her dad then asking her. but we dated for 5 years, and he liked me, so it wasnt TO bad. as far as me, i was nervous as hell, even though i knew she would say yes *which she did* we flew to Daytona Beach for a vacation in july for 3 weeks. she didnt know it was coming, but my bro did (he lives in daytona) and every day he kept calling and asking "u do it yet?" and for 2 weeks i said no (just vervous). how i did it. 1 night i suggested we get up early for the sunrise, she said sure. well, i didnt sleep AT ALL that damn night, and come 4am i was up. around 5 or so i woke her up (she is SO not a morning person and just wanted to sleep in). i finally got her to get moving and took her down the the beach. we walked for a little bit and then i popped the quesiton. and as said abouve she said yes.VolEngineer said:
8 months later i had a crash on my bike, screwed up my knees (as well as a few other bones) and couldnt walk for a good month. during this month, she visited me, maybe 3 times. when i started 2 walk (which hurt like hell btw) and she would come over, or we would go some where, she'd always say "just dont bleed everywhere". then all of a sudden she was going to clubs with her "friends" and all these red flag things.. all while im at home, by myself. then a in july(year after i proposed), i had lasik done, and she decided to drop the bomb on me about seeing other people. :/ so there i am, barely walking, and cant see (had those patches over my eyes still) and she tells me this. but now, 2 1/2 years later.. i am SOOOO glad she did what she did. cause we have hng out a few times since then, and i just cant stand the "new" version of her. she just drinks to much and is a little whore (which im sure she was kinda messing around with guys while i was hurt). i know.. not a happy ending as far with her, but as far as my life.... im actually very glad she did what she did..cause it opened my eyes up to the world somemore.. plus, i wouldnt be with the chick im with now.
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aziroc.. that's ruff...
But if we're talkin about the blessing from the dad. Mine wasn't bad. I spoke to her dad at Thanksgiving and after he gave me his blessing I told him my plan.
I simply told him that sense we had been dating for like 2.5 years and I finally had a good job (my current job) that I would be able to provide for her and that was important to me. My wife and I are a bit (not too much) old fashion on some things.
But anyway, it was all a bit :willy: but a good eventfull time of our lives. Then looking back, it was nothing in life changes... everytime we go thru something it seems worse than anything else. Then when its over it's like.... "oew, that wasn't so bad."
But if we're talkin about the blessing from the dad. Mine wasn't bad. I spoke to her dad at Thanksgiving and after he gave me his blessing I told him my plan.
I simply told him that sense we had been dating for like 2.5 years and I finally had a good job (my current job) that I would be able to provide for her and that was important to me. My wife and I are a bit (not too much) old fashion on some things.
But anyway, it was all a bit :willy: but a good eventfull time of our lives. Then looking back, it was nothing in life changes... everytime we go thru something it seems worse than anything else. Then when its over it's like.... "oew, that wasn't so bad."
the size of the ring doesn't really mean all that much to a girl. it is the commitment behind it that counts. usually guys buy large rings for their own bragging rights as well. i was engaged 3 times before finally marrying (been married for 8 yrs. now - this one is a keeper). my first ring was 1/4 carat, 2nd was 1/2 carat, current one is 1 carat. i didn't love the 1/4 carat guy any less for buying a smaller ring. so go with what you are comfortable with spending. don't listen to DeBeers. it's your wallet. BTW, i gave back the rings when the engagements failed. not all of us ladies are gold diggers. but if you love someone, you usually want the best for them, right? i'm not gettin' all seroius on ya or anything, just letting you know what girls really think. :hug: :dthumb:VolEngineer said:Shopping for the ring makes me a little jealous because I am a little cheap. I want something materialistic (not some bs answer about getting her for life
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Sadly, I am getting off easy when asking for a blessing from her Dad. He passed away last year fighting a really awful disease, leaving him hospitalized on 2 seperate occasiaons, once for 2 weeks, and the other for 3 months. He was a good man/husband/father, and always treated me like a son. The little lady and I are usually spending our time with her Mother, along with her brothers, which isint a bad thing. I at least asked her Mom for her blessings and she said it was OK, and she said her Dad would have too...
Other than that, I know she will say yes, but yet I am a little nervous
Well i didnt have a problem asking the father, he kinda looked @ me funny because I didnt think I was the type of guy to ask for a blessing.
But I asked pippi last x-mas day. How it happened is kinda just between Pip and I but it was great. Im not a nervous person at all but i was a little then but I think more excited. Im old fashion so I didnt finace the ring like most people. I paid for it a month early so needless to say i was restless for a month and wanted to share my purchase with SO bad! But i wanted to ask her in a way she wouldn't ever forget.
We arnt married yet but we are working on it.
But I asked pippi last x-mas day. How it happened is kinda just between Pip and I but it was great. Im not a nervous person at all but i was a little then but I think more excited. Im old fashion so I didnt finace the ring like most people. I paid for it a month early so needless to say i was restless for a month and wanted to share my purchase with SO bad! But i wanted to ask her in a way she wouldn't ever forget.
We arnt married yet but we are working on it.
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I just got enganged a couple of days ago. It was weird, I dont think I really want to get married, but its what she wants. She's definalty the one, its the timing that could be better, so it does not make a big difference for me.
I just bought her the ring last week, It cost me over $15K and the whole time I was thinking, there goes my Duccati, or 427 twin turbo for the vette:yikes: .
I just bought her the ring last week, It cost me over $15K and the whole time I was thinking, there goes my Duccati, or 427 twin turbo for the vette:yikes: .
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:yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes:Monster231 said:
itgirl25 said:
Your Husband sounds like he is a lucky guy :dthumb: Most women would pawn it off or just keep stuff. I know I had a few of those before I met the current girlfriend. I let one borrow my calculator (you know the TI-83 or whatever it was, but the expensive one), because she said she had some math test coming up, and a tutor coming over. Well the tutor was captian of the football team or some crap and the only thing they were studying was anything under the covers (as I walked in on them "studying"
uke. The next day as we were breaking up she demands that she keeps my calculator. I just laughed and hung up on her. Havent seen her in a few years but I always ask what happened to my TI-83 just to piss her off. :lol: This one is worth every penny though. I was planning on 3/4 or 1/2 ct. Apparently I am getting hooked up with a family friend jewler, so hopefully i dont get :wbs: . Money is not an immediate issue. I have saved enough to blow on this rock. Bye bye big screen TV fund!...and then some
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