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Yeah i know ppl proly dont want to hear this but i think i fcuked up, n now i dont knwo what to do, i sorta called it off like 2 weeks ago, btw we where together for 4 years. called it off just based on the fact that i didnt think it was gonna work out in the long run. Now when i think to myself some of the shiot that bothered me does not bother me at all. n i am not sure if she even wantes me back. i need HELP bad
 

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Sounds like something I did back in high school. There is always that feeling of what if. But sometimes when you have time to sit down and think it through, you realized you made a mistake. We all do hon. Talk to her. Shoot her an email or call her on the phone. See how she feels about the situation. 4 years is A LOT of years. And if you talk to her, you may be able to find out where your relationship is and what you both can do to make it work if you want it to.

Good luck, hon. I hope everything works out for you. :hug:

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thanks, its just weird, i talked to her last night n it was like she didnt want anything to do with me, 2 days b4 that all she wanted to do was be with me. its like when i talk to her now i just get that feeling like she does not want anything to do with me now. n i have no clue what to do. i was scared of tha fact that she wanted to get a place n stuff n move in. now i think about it like it would not bother me at all, when 2 weeks ago it scared the shiot out of me. i never felt like this in my entire life. im only 20 soon to be 21 but she is all i know
 

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Dude, step up and be honest with yourself. Ask yourself Who, What, When, Where, and Why. Then go get what you need and want. That easy!!! Stop with all the "I can't" and "I don't know", cuz ya can and you do know.
Peace, this episode of Dr. Phil is over.......
 

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Her emotions regarding you are going to be up and down...one day nice to you, the next day not so nice. Especially if she wasn't expecting you to ditch her. If you really want her back, and mean it, than do something nice. Send her flowers, grovel if you have to. Do whatever it takes. I really don't think that after 4 years she will not want you back...you just have to prove to her that you love her and that you made a big mistake. She is probably going to be very untrusting of you right now and you need to reassure her and realize that getting back together might be tough. If you love her, stick it out! :)
 

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im gonna take ur advice speedwerks, i was thinking the same thing. and that is what i was taught my whole life "do whatever it takes". just worrying too much i think caseu im at work n there is nothign i can do while im at work, like i said its driving me nuts sitting here.
 

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Man it's ruff dealin with the ladies... sounds like you got some type of cold feet.... you'll be alright... just tell her how you feel and explain it to her like you're doin here... keep us updated...
 

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i know im only 20. n i have been with her since i was 16. n thats what everyone tells me ur only 20 but it doesent matter if im 30. y look around if you already have what u want. yeah i know ppl are like wow im a moron for wanted to get back with her n im only 20 you can meet soo many ppl, and this is the way i though too, but now i realize that thats not what i want.
its like she is the perfect girl for me. she alwasys want to be with me and never be anywerhe without me there. the more i think about all the differences we had the more i realize that she is identical to me.
 

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but it doesent matter if im 30. y look around if you already have what u want
That is a great way of thinking!!! If she is what you want then you need to do WHATEVER it takes to get her back. Most important...TALK to her about it. Make sure she understands why you did it. As Speedwerks said, there is gonna be some untrust for quite some time, but that is definitely up to you to work her through that. Don't beat yourself over it though, everyone makes mistakes and this is definitely one that can be fixed. Im sure she will understand that you were just scare at first, I mean after all, you two are young and it IS scary thinking about changes in life, especially when it involves someone other than YOU. (i tell ya secret, I have been engaged for 2 years now, and I have 2 kids with him, but I still scared of getting married, why? I have no clue) You'll be alright!!! :dthumb:
 

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I don't think there is anything un-trusting in this... he's just a bit confused...

Hey listen, I have been with my wife sense she was 17...and I was 20-21 or somin... we just hit it off like WOW! We, in my opinion, have one the best relationships I have ever seen. We just get along really well and don't sweat the small stuff. We think alike and yet we are our own person.

Yeah, it would have been great to go out and live the pimp style life till I was to about my age now (26) but WHY? What would I have accomplished but to think back and wish I had her. If you find that ONE girl/boy that you know you can make it for the LONG haul... grab on and don't let go. Live vicarisly (SP?)thru other people... but that's just my :2cents: from a getting old married guy...
 

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Furthermore, I believe that I'm farther ahead in life to the choices I made when I was your age... both finacially and in my relationships...

Again :2cents:
 

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I didn't read every word but what i'm hearing is how she always wants to be with you and do things with you.....etc etc etc....but what I'm not hearing is DO YOU WANT TO DO ALL THOSE THINGS WITH HER. Just because she does all these things and wants to be with you.......doesn't mean you want to be with her. What did she do in the first place that caused you to dump her? Ask yourself that. THen ask yourself if you can get past those things. Then ask yourself do you truly miss her or are you just lonely and going through what we all go through when we end a relationship....begin questioning everything and wondering if we were wrong. WHY DID YOU DUMP HER???? That's the question you must answer first. You can't just go pulling her back in because you're lonely. You have to be ready to accept whatever caused you to end things and now you have to be ready to step it up a level because her trust in you has been hurt and she's going to be on edge over your relationship (if you do get back together) so now you'll really have to show your love and be patient with her because she WILL get emotional and question you a lot now.
 

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Well, then put up or shut up. Get out of work today, go to the store, get a nice card, go get yourself a dozen red roses, and get your butt over there. And while you're sitting there at work feeling sorry for yourself, write her a letter...a nice long one telling her everything you love about her, how sorry you are, how you're going to fix things, and how you can't live without her and how you not only want her back......need her back. So get crackin'.
 

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Oh, and you might want to go all out and have a fish dinner!! :yikes:
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Snap...I did say that!! :D
 
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